I never imagined myself in a leadership role. I always assumed someone else would step in—someone with a louder voice or a fancier title. But after too many situations where I watched things fall apart or stay stuck, I realized I couldn’t keep waiting. So I started speaking up, even when my voice shook. One small decision at a time, I built confidence by doing the uncomfortable thing. When did you realize you were the one people were waiting for?

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I realized it when a project kept stalling and everyone just…kept waiting for someone else to fix it. I finally spoke up. It wasn’t perfect, but people started looking to me after that. That’s when it clicked, I didn’t need a title to lead.

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I guess I had the opposite start - based on my parents' jobs I just never saw myself doing anything but continuing to move up. Then I realized that you basically get no actual training on being a manager; you get promoted because you're good at the technical stuff into a role that doesn't involve as much of it and suddenly you have more responsibility.

Watching the managers around me and thinking about my best/worst bosses helped me figure out what I wanted my style to be. It's a work in progress :)

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Somehow, early in my career, I realized that I wanted to be in a leadership role. It was probably a good seven years, maybe five years after chasing it that I was finally offered a leadership role. Only have to have to decline it due to extenuating circumstance and being a military family. But I put in a whole lot of homework in my first year, just reading and absorbing and listening to others and talking to others about leadership. When I left leadership, I realized how good of a leader I was because the people leading me were not that.

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Thanks for starting this thread! I’ll be lurking as someone who’s kind of ‘stuck’ at a Lead level. I Manage contractors, but I feel like I don’t want to go any further, unless MANY conditions are right. There’s this assumption everyone wants to keep climbing.

When I and the rest of the team realized my authenticity, fairness, initiative, and ability to resolve and diffuse issues/conflict was better than the other options. I was a team player and treated others how I wanted to be treated

I’ve generally always had the ‘want’ to move up, do more, be responsible for more. The issue was finding a place where it was smart to do it. Finding the right company makes a world of difference for leaders and everyone to actually thrive. Under lesser conditions, better to stay put.

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