I referred an old coworker of mine to my current company and I received a referral bonus. He started this week and just now asked me if I will give him any of the bonus. I would have been fine with that if we discussed it during his interview process, but we never did. I feel like since we didn’t establish that he would get any beforehand, it seems unfair that he’s asking for something now. He even received a nice signing bonus. Thoughts on whether I should split the referral bonus?

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Send him this thread, I bet he'll stop asking and invite you to dinner to celebrate!

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He must be joking, right? I’d just laugh at him and say “no way buddy- take a hike”. I’d be taking him for a drink tho. I wouldn’t discuss it at all with him. If he ever asks again, just laugh at him and say:- “my referral bonus is none of your business…you scab”

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Plus say “then you share your signing bonus with me- so we’re even.”

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That’s pretty lame on the part of your old coworker. Absolutely not. They should be grateful.

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Of course not. This says so much of his character. Besides he should be taking you to dinner. unless he’s willing to give you half of his bonus ….then you can take him.

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Hell no. YOU found him a job. He should be grateful and take you to dinner.

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Funny enough I already played this scenario in my head and would tell them upfront I just get a $300 bottle for us to chill at a club and that’s it. I be pocketing that extra thousands.

That was kinda cringe of him ngl. I always offer a nice dinner if people make it but that’s discussing before hand. I would also never just cut a check lol.

Lol I would just treat it as a joke.

Weird you’d even think to split it

Bye ex-friend

Someone once referred me & I was ready to take them to the casino with my signing bonus LOL

Shit, can’t keep his hands in his own pockets? This is wild to me. If anything he’s indebted to you for the job referral. It’s the Wild West out there.

Was he serious?

Ask him to share his signing bonus

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He wants you to pay him, for getting a new job? Which likely included a signing bonus?

No you don’t

Report him to HR.

I personally wouldn't share and would subtly remind him / her that they got a job / signing bonus with presumably the aid of my referral.

Then I'd probably buy a lunch or dinner just as a nice gesture!

Why should the guy that got him the job take him out to dinner? As the one who lands the job based on a referral, I’ve always offered to post for a nice meal as a thank you for their consideration in the role.

I’d never expect, nor would I ask, for a referral cut.

I even asked someone that helped me immensely if they got a referral bonus for me, as I put their name in, but they said they did not. I returned the favor by referring him to my current firm. No quid pro quo, just doing the right thing.

Split sign on bonus and joining bonus. That would be fair deal for both.

That’s a crazy, presumptuous ask.

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