I used to have a solid friend group—weekly game nights, weekend trips, the whole thing. Then consulting happened. Now, I’m on the road four days a week, glued to client calls when I’m home, and barely have the energy to text people back. I’ve missed birthdays, weddings, even just casual hangouts because work always comes first. At this point, I feel like a ghost in my own life. Has anyone actually found a way to balance consulting with a social life? Or do you just accept that your real friends now are hotel bartenders and Slack notifications?

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You have to schedule friendships like meetings. If you don’t actively block time for social life, consulting will consume everything. I started scheduling non-negotiable personal time—whether it’s calling a friend or having dinner with family. It’s the only way to stay connected.

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I quit consulting just due to this

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Do you keep your Fishbowl, like me, to remind yourself of how glad you are you left?

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There are easier projects. Especially remote projects.

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Don’t miss life events for work, remember that you’re just a number in the eyes of your employer and they will cut you in 2 seconds to save a buck

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Make friends with other consultants; weekly travel means you can probably take a trip to another location instead of going home. For longevity’s sake, you can either work your consulting life into personal life or set boundaries (which typically can be career limiting depending on your value to the firm).

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Sounds like you’re not doing a good job setting boundaries. Take accountability for your life, stop putting these obligations on yourself. I see plenty of people not respond at night and address things in the AM. It’s likely your go getter attitude that’s the problem or super hero attitude. Spend time taking care of yourself and logging off.

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There are some good suggestions here from SC1 and EY1.

That said, some of this is just part of growing up/transitioning into what you’ll be in this phase of your life. You have to decide what your priorities are, how you want to live, and make adjustments accordingly.

Some folks prioritize social life in their 20s and 30s and focus on maximizing career growth a little later in life. While others slog in their earlier years and start taking things a little slower in their 40s. While yet others try to maintain a steady balance throughout, and for yet others balance eludes them their entire life e.g., Elon Musk, Steve Jobs etc..

Each of these approaches has implications both for your career & financial success and personal & family life. You have to decide what your priorities are for each life stage and make decisions appropriately. There is no one approach that is right for everyone.

Good luck in your journey!

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This used to be me...went into different space - work 40-45 hours, met my spouse, have kids and live a normal life of work/life/balance, with a great salary. You CAN have a life. Take it back. A job is a means to end. Not supposed to consume you.

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