I wonder how all the boss ladies deal with imposter syndrome.
I have recently come to the role of the leading function with the seat at the management table. How do you stay authentic to your vulnerabilities or mask it under the confidence ( faking it till you make it scenario)

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I start by not referring to myself with cutie titles like "boss lady" or "girl boss". When you call yourself those things, you immediately undermine yourself, to yourself. You are creating your own story that you're not a manager or a leader, you're just a "girl boss".

Imposter syndrome is all about the narrative you tell yourself. If you tell yourself that you're not as good as others you will believe it and it reflects back on you.

I found the best thing for me to do was make a conscious effort to stop telling myself these things. I give myself a metaphorical thought slap when I find thoughts like that creeping in

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Lean the hardest into your best skills.

It's like someone telling you "don't say f***" and immediately your thoughts go to that word. Spend less energy on the negative thoughts. Have a trusted colleague or former colleague who can help pump you up when you really are feeling it. Get a career coach and look elsewhere if it's the environment that's leading you to the imposter syndrome.

When you realize how dumb some of these men are, you should feel a lot better about yourself. And they’re totally shameless! Steal a page out of their book and be better than them.

You’ve got this!!!

The fact that you’re even worried about it, tells me you’re probably more self aware than they are, and therefore better at your job.

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Therapy helped me with my imposter syndrome. Talked out my fears and realized that I wasn’t giving myself enough credit. I also was given helpful tips to turnaround or change the negative thoughts by considering different perspectives or even something as small as changing the verbiage.

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Ha. I’m 4 weeks into a new role as a leader is 75+ people and wrestle this daily as well. Just here to say your not alone!

I’m still navigating this as well.

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