The partner I work for is consistently rude, condescending, hostile and disrespectful. Advice?

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Have the same deal with partner I work for luckily I been long enough where I went to another more senior partner and was totally honest. The senior partner was very supportive and was going to talk to the partner and also make me work with some other folks. If you don't think you can approach a more senior partner then would talk to your performance manager to change teams. If nothing changed after then it's unfortunately go HR route or find another job.

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Talk to the Partner and voice your concerns. I don't recommend going behind their back to complain. As long as they aren't discriminating illegally (race, sex, etc...) and they're just being a dick, you don't want to get into an HR war with said partner (partner likely to win). Don't do anything that is a CLM. How are your reviews on the job? Are you getting good scorecards?

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Get proof of this by recording him w ur phone . Video is too obvious unless he/she isn't looking. If you bring this up it I'll be a battle of who do the belief more. If you have hard proof they can't call you a lier.

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PwC 1 - that's not legal.

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Get used to it. Partner pays you money. Accept money. Do his bidding. Go home.

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^small gloves?

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Ask your resource manager to staff you elsewhere

Talk to resource manager and say you are going to talk tot he partner, talk to the partner about what is going on.

@PwC1 I'd be wary of getting into a battle with a partner. Everyone knows whose more valuable to the firm. As long as they're not doing anything illegal (being a dick isn't illegal), don't hesitate for a second to think who the firm is going to back. They're a partner and you're just a cog in the wheel. Partner wins that battle every time.

Is he/she only this way to you?

Maybe he's trying to overcompensate for having little hands. And you know what that means.

Associate Manager - it's not legal either for the partner to act that way. People have to protect themselves whatever way they can

^what is illegal about the way the Partner is acting?

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