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soo my sleep schedule is effed up, i keep trying to wake up early-ish (7am) but i’m lacking motivation and i wake up tired 😴
i stumbled upon this article that talked about this book. we always hear about the “secret” of strong leaders is that they wake up early. has anyone read this/tried it out?
5 AM Club, The: Own Your Morning. Elevate Your Life. https://www.amazon.com/dp/1443460710/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_n2GdFbJJEFKSN
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Propose with fake diamond, then go shopping afterwards. Get the surprise and the exact ring she wants. Worked really well for me
Don't go shopping with her. Dumb.
Don't propose with a fake ring or another woman's ring, even if it's your grandmother's ring. Risky. Lazy. Also dumb.
Don't propose with a diamond you bought in a generic setting. Lazy. Half-assed planning. Also dumb.
Find one of her girlfriends that is known to be close to being engaged, or is already engaged or married, but that you can trust not to say a word about what follows...
Have her girlfriend plan a "girl's day" to hang out. If the girl is close to being engaged then have her pull your girlfriend into a jewelry store to try on rings (but make sure she makes it 90% about herself, and then kind of suggests "hey why don't you try one on just for the hell of it"). If the girl is married or engaged already, get her to take your girlfriend with her to the jeweler to "get her ring cleaned," and then just have her casually bring your girlfriend over to the bridal selection and say stuff like "oh that looks nice," and then she'll play into it and might even get to the point where they're trying things on while they wait for the ring to be cleaned.
Out of something like this, you'll get two things:
• Style of rings she prefers
• Her ring size
I'll happily provide more info if you need it (especially with relation to stone, etc), and share with you how I went about getting my fiancée's ring size, if you need the info or care to hear the story.
Warning: I have been told I am loquacious, and I tend to think that's a fair description.
Hahaha @ asking her if she wants to be surprised by being proposed to
Just trying to provide some female perspective. I don't think any of my friends wanted to be completely surprised...they wanted some say in the ring they would be wearing hopefully forever!
No right or wrong here. When my super technical and pragmatic husband proposed, he said, "I didn't get a ring because I wanted us to pick it out together." Still said yes! He's a designer so we bought a loose diamond, I showed him designs I liked and he designed a custom ring for me. 😍💍
Take your mother or sister with you. I took my mom but I picked the ring myself. Disclaimer: I'm stylish as f**k.
Taking your GF ruins the surprise.
P4 is a quick one
Thanks DD1! The problem is, she knows me too well.. 🤣
I think there's nothing wrong with picking out rings or looking at them together, but id like to be surprised in the moment. And if my nails are done that's a plus haha
I don't think it's dumb to go shopping with her. I wanted to pick out my own ring so that's what we did. To be honest no one here knows your girlfriend, so you are better off just asking her what she wants to do. Does she want to go shopping together to pick it out? Does she want to just give you ideas? Does she want to be completely surprised?
OP, another piece of advice... A4 might not be aware of this, but...
*Most* reputable jewelers will tell you when you're making the purchase (if you tell them you're doing this without her knowledge and that it's a surprise) will tell you they will agree to take back the ring and give you credit toward something else if she doesn't like what you've purchased. My jeweler assured me if my fiancée didn't like what I had put together, I could bring the ring back (with her) and they'd get it sorted so she had something she liked. Surprise intact. She loved the ring I bought, but I will say I have very good taste (not-so-humblebrag, but it's true) and I know her style. She even said afterward that she likes what I got her WAY better than anything she had been looking at or thinking about).
Good stuff A4 and P3! Thanks!
So female here... I don't get the huge diamond ring thing. What is the appeal, seems more like a status symbol and marketing ploy than a declaration of love. I also don't wear jewelry
Whatever you do. Log the time to PRD
When my husband and I started talking about marriage, we also started looking at rings together right away. I picked out the setting I wanted, approx. carat, and got sized, but he surprised me with the clarity and color he went with. This is going to be one of the most expensive pieces of jewelry you ever buy and she ever wears - you don't want her to just tell you she likes it not to hurt your feelings (have friends who have done this and then just stop wearing the ring after the wedding or once kids come along).
Agree with everyone here that only you know your girlfriend and how important the "surprise" is vs an "unexpected" moment, but I would recommend taking her shopping, having a girlfriend take her shopping, or proposing with a fake ring/without a ring over trying to guess at what she will like.
Every suggestion saying to pay attention to other jewelry she has/drop hints or that you should already know what she likes.
Get access to her Pinterest
No, P3. What is insurance? Explain it to me.
Oh, honey, no 😂
Great ideas! Keep it rolling!
DD1 is right, she has to wear it. Take her to look.
Agreed E2, but that can be a big IF sometimes. I tried to get hints