During the pandemic I dove into my self care (found a therapist, learned I was having seizures and got on meds for that). My journey has been difficult and not pretty to watch. Somewhere along the line I feel like my fiancé saw too much. I no longer feel like romantic parters and instead feel like we have a “caretaker/patient” type relationship. I don’t feel sexy or attractive anymore. I talked to him about this and he feels bad. But I feel guilty for bringing it up. Anyone else had this issue?

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OP, don’t have any advice or suggestions, but just wanted to send positive vibes your way!

Also, how did you learn you were having seizures?

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Haha you and EY1 had same question, see above.

I am sending you positive thoughts.

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This definitely feels like something you should explore with your therapist, or perhaps with a couples therapist who can help both of you work through it. That’s a lot for both of you to go through - you experiencing so much, and him supporting and worrying about you through it!

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Genuinely curious, what was your seizure symptoms?

Nope, generalized epilepsy.

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