If you had the choice, would you have your MIL live with your family permanently and help with raising the kids? What are the pros and cons? We seem to get a long just fine, but I get mixed reviews

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My conditional “yes” conditions are strict enough to effectively be a “no.” Clear boundaries, separate space, etc. so I don’t get any flak for walking around in my underwear, don’t get unsolicited parenting advice, and so on. That’s a tough needle to thread but if you can do it, I bet it would be awesome.

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It’d be my mom, but sure. As long as I had a detached living area with separate kitchen etc. coach house, two-flat, over-garage apartment, etc

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Common theme here all depends if everyone gets along. If you travel M-Th let her live there mom-Thursday night

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It’s a mixed bag. My FIL lives with us and helps with the kids. They love him, but his attitudes are outdated and he occasionally steals my booze.

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My MIL still has 2 teenage daughters living with her, plus her own mother, so no way...

She's great though, she lives about 30 min away and comes on a regular basis when we need help. Note that our little one is only 2 months old, so we'll see how that goes.

Is she hot?

Depends on culture. In eastern cultures, it is common for parents to live with you but usually not the MIL. My MIL sides with my wife even when she is wrong so a big No for me. If it is my mom, then hell yes. I am a momma's boy. What can I say. If you do decide to have your mil in your family, give her an in-laws quarters and keep an eye on her.

My MIL lives with us most of the time. We have a toddler and a baby. The help is great, the food is good, the groceries get done, the toddler gets a lot more attention, and there is a spare set of hands to help feed the baby. No regrets.

Thanks fish dads. Great povs from different angles

My mil lived with us for a while. She judged us for everything. Especially my travel. We got a live in nanny instead. Much easier to boss around

No way. But I think it’s MIL - dependent

Love my MIL, wish she lived with us but her and my wife bump heads even though it’s her mom not mine!

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