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Be honest with them and tell them you're working through things that are causing problems. I have this issue when I'm stressed, depressed, or just generally not in the mood. I be up front with my SO about it and apologize, and they are understanding that it's not their fault.
If you can, be open and honest with your personal issues with your partner, but you need to understand what's going on with yourself first so you can actually explain it
Sounds like you have a good understanding of it then. Do you feel comfortable sharing that with your partner? Sounds like other people are saying being up front may be the way to go.
I struggle a lot with guilt over this but it's important to understand that there's nothing wrong with you.
Communicating this frequently helped things go from a big guilty letdown with my partner to just an inconvenience (as long as I tell them as soon as I know it's not gonna happen and not waste their time).
After being up front and offering to reciprocate long enough, I've noticed I'm the only one who feels bad. Just don't leave things up to their imagination.
You got this!
I have had a couple of boyfriends like this and honesty is very important. FYI, this is a thing that men can’t actually fake, it is pretty obvious. It’s also probably not a big deal to your partner, it wasn’t a big deal to me. One boyfriend had a very very specific way he could finish or else he just didn’t, and one boyfriend just never did. And like another person said, it was generally medication or anxiety related, maybe sometimes booze related, but it didn’t bother me, as long as he was actually enjoying himself and it wasn’t me causing the problem for him.
So common. As a woman who has sex with men, I've had to reassure a good portion of my partners that not finishing sometimes is super normal, I've seen it a lot, and the pressure/shame to finish really just ruins the experience for us both so don't worry about it.
It is SO common for men to not finish. Boners are fickle.
Maybe there are other positions or explorations that may help you achieve it?
Hopefully you can keep it from being flaccid and both of you experience pleasure.
BS1, I am a man hahah
So trying different positions or ways to achieve it may work. 🤷🏼♂️
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So here’s a personal question a therapist might ask. Can you finish if you’re going solo?
Sometimes.
Not finishing and erectile dysfunction are completely different things. I’ve had this happen during times in my relationships. I usually chalked it up to some type of stressor or anxiety in the relationship since it eventually would work itself out. But honestly, when it does happen I just used it as way to go a lot longer. The only issue I actually had was having her(s) realize and think it was their fault somehow. I’m more of a pleaser myself so it kind of works out for me when that issue arises. And if you cant finish by your own means, maybe mention it to your primary care physician? Overall, I think a lot of guys go through this every once and while. I wouldn’t sweat it too much.
This was me for a long time I couldn't finish inside her. I would eventually go soft and she's like what's wrong. I usually could finish outside.
IMO, be honest - we are ALL stressed right now. Looks like your relationship is in the early stages, so this is also a good way to see what kind of person ur partner truly is. For me (a female), I'd personally love the openness. Esp. given how we r all stuck inside/living in unprecedented times, the vulnerability and honesty would be welcomed. Maybe she can help u figure out & work through the psychological issues, maybe she's stressed as well... all of this, in turn, will advance ur relationship + strengthen your bond. If she's not understanding.. well, good thing it's early in the partnership + u can "TY, NEXT" before getting too attached!! Good luck, friend!
It is common. A lot of questions like this online. Be honest about it and make sure you're enjoying yourself without judgment or expectations.
Personally, it has happened to me a few times but I can usually finish about 80% of the time.
Male here.