I'm pretty miserable, I'm 36 and have been unemployed so long that I have no choice but to move back in with my parents... How does everyone else handle situations like this? How can I not feel like a complete failure?

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You are not a failure. My son has a PhD in physics from University of Michigan and can’t buy a job but that does not define him or ypu…EVER! I know it’s tough. I’ve been there and I’m 66 still having to work and have to tell myself I’m not a failure because I’m not able financially to retire. You are worth so much more than the situation. Accept the support your parents give you. Best of everything.

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I had to retire 7 years earlier than intended or face selling my house to move out of state. I was laid off from my previous career job in Lending, unemployed for 16 months and I am 64. I currently am working weekends as a dog bather at a salon. It is back breaking work. And I still have a mortgage. I feel like a failure in motion every day. I keep my focus on my hope that something good will happen, as long as I keep trying, apply for part time jobs. I apply to 2 a day.

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I'm 36 too and have been unemployed for about 14 months. It's been rough. I don't have support from my parents, but I am accepting other support from friends/family. I just let go of comparing my life to anyone else's and remind myself that I'm doing my best. The narrative I have that I should be somewhere else is what was driving me crazy. Lots of self care and nothing wrong with receiving help. This is just one season of your life. Good luck!

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Use the support for good the nagging to fuel your goal to move back out. But take advantage of the time to regroup

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You're not a failure. Take whatever time you need to for yourself because it's ok to take a step back from searching if you're emotionally and mentally overwhelmed. Then when you're ready, pick back up and keep going. Keep applying, grow your network, learn new skills, all that kind of stuff. I just turned 46 and I was out of work for 16 months. I recently accepted a position that I'm starting later this month. You got this.

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I neve left the nest :(

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How long? I have been unemployed for over a year and I have been living with my parents since forever, but I pay most of the bills since they are retired and broke lol. But it does help me save money since I eat at home most of the time.
I pay rent & utilities and some essential, while my mom usually pay for the grocery cuz she only eats certain food lol. Enjoy while you can!
I made some money from stock market this year but the last few weeks did wipe out almost 1/2 of my gains but still funemployed is fun!

I feel like one myself I been applying for every job and it makes me feel worthless like I don't matter and I don't need a job

I am so sorry. I know how you feel except I am 64. I had to retire early on SS and will most likely have to sell my house and move out of state to a low income area. My mother is 86, lives 1 mile from me, alone and lives in a big empty house that I grew up in. She knows my situation and has not offered me a place with her. I have money and could take care of her too but I guess I will need to leave. I have never caused her any trouble. You are fortunate that you could move home. I know it’s hard. I have pets and they all depend on me. Very sad.

I’m in the same situation but my family wants me to still pay rent while being unemployed and raising my child.

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