The worst part of my breakup is the urge to obsess over his happiness with the woman he cheated on me with. Any tips?

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:( im sorry op it has been hard to stop obsessing over my previous relationship too. Honestly not able to stop either but have been trying to actively spend time with family and friends, meditate, and also look for a new relationship... good luck. Talking to people about it helped too

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Oh no, There goes my happy place lol

Therapy helps. It’s important to focus on yourself and your own mental health. Centering you’re own desires and needs and happiness.

I think there was this one idea in another post about writing a letter to him about all that you want to say. Wait 72 hours to send it.
Read it after 72 hours. If there are any edits to be made, make them but gotta wait 72 hours again. By the time the letter is ready to go, so much time would've have passed that that lady didn't end up sending it.
I think that was a great idea.
Talking definitely helps. Replace the companionship with a support group (family, friends, random strangers on FB, etc). Once you start filling your days with things, you'll be on the other side of this.
Hang in there. I'm just getting out of a very very very messy relationship myself. Hugs to you!

It’s been two years for me, and I still have days where I still obsess about their relationship (they got married last year). It sucks, but you just gotta keep moving forward.

I haven’t. I think that’s one reason I struggle with it still

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