I’m really struggling with figuring out my sexuality and dating as I enter the next phase of my life (into my first job). Not out Bisexual male - uncertain about dating. I want to try going out with girls but scared that they would think about my sexual history(got with guys and girls before). Anyone in a similar boat?

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Bi woman here. Unfortunately, there are more negative stigmas attached to bi men, whereas bi women are more fetishized. Know that there will be women who reject you because of your orientation and history.

I don’t want to discourage you. I want you to be aware. That said, just be honest with your dates. The right person will accept you.

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Ditto to this. I am a bi male and just got married to my now wife. She knew on like day 3. Didn’t bother her.

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Not personally, but I have a friend who is bisexual. She never came out to her family, but some of her friends knew. She dated both genders and was very open about her sexuality with them. She never experienced any issues dating-wise. If anything, it made her more attractive to others because she was getting dates left and right.

All this to say, just be yourself and be honest with others. If someone doesn’t want to date you because of your history, you probably don’t want to be with them anyway. There are plenty of fishes out there.

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Try dating on Feeld. Lots of open, diverse like-minded people.

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Im not out and don’t really feel like doing that anytime soon so dating apps is not really an options

SA1 is right. If you disclose that you have been sexually involved with other men, many (probably most) women will lose interest. My guess is that they perceive being in a relationship with someone in that situation to be too risky.

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Bi woman married to a bi man here and it had never once been an issue. His sexuality does not impact or negate his attraction to me and vice versa. I appreciated his honesty, and we ogle at hot people of all genders together.

Honestly, if you meet someone who has an issue with you being bi (or any other mspec orientation) you should probably look really carefully at if this is a person you even want to associate with in general, let alone date.

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I think I would be curious to know if we had the same taste in guys 😅

I’m into guys who are older than me (mainly 30s) who are fit, funny, successful.

As a woman, I'd stay clear of bisexual men for a variety of reasons but also bc u think bisexuality in men is a gateway to homosexuality and they just haven't figured it out yet. I consider myself very liberal but would def struggle with dating a bisexual man. Honestly I'd rather not know.

I'm not re-evaluating anything. I made a comment based on ME. You do you though.
Everything doesn't have to be a think piece.

I’m a bi married M who really enjoyed a few guy experiences before marriage but happily married to a F with no regrets. Remember that you will always be attracted to other people. Just be committed to your SO and don’t worry about labels.

It’s sad that in this day in age, when people hear bi or pan, they immediately go to non-monogamous or poly. I’m probably never going to be able to come out and I’m happily in a committed relationship, so I don’t tell many people that I consider myself bi or have same-sex attraction.

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