Is it a red flag if my fiance is always asking me to take care of the planning? He says 'I'm more creative anyway' but its starting to feel like a silly excuse to get out of the hard work.

Anybody willing to help a broke kid out with some mock interview prep?

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

Been in the same relationship since i was 17 years old, now I’m 23. I want to go out and live my life the way i want too. Is this bad?

How do you and your partner (married or not married) split financials?

I am in a bit of a good/bad spot. I have worked at Salesforce for close to a year as a consultant. They want to bring back travel to 50%+ post Covid and I am not feeling that motivated to be away from my family that often. I have an opportunity to join a startup as a Sr. PM likely making the same or a tiny bit less. But no travel and not consulting. All internal project. I don’t know what else I should be looking at. I am asking here cause you guys are all smarter than my childhood friends…

had a level 3 lock down today (active shooter/imminent threats). no one was harmed but it left me wondering what else can I have in my classroom or do to keep my kids safe or fight back? (Hacks/tips)

I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

Ugh Libby's family is just as toxic as Andrei!

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

How much of a nest egg would you expect a couple to collectively need in order to retire at 40 and live relatively comfortable (not lavish)?

Any 40+ women here interested to make new friends? 40+ man here.

I work with a classroom of Middle School ED students. One student, who I worked with the year before, has changed alot over the year. Last year (pre COVID), she had a good head on her shoulders and I thought I had good rapor with her. But over that period of isolation, she tried to commit suicide.

All year, she was much more withdrawn and ALWAYS on her phone! At the end of the I was 'beat up by her - she really knocked my glasses off.

How should I approach her in the upcoming year?

Been questioning my friendship with a group of girls. Really close to them before (been hanging out since high school), but all they do is gossip, shop, and talk about superficial things, and I just started realizing how our interests are different too in the recent years. When is it time to drop the friendship if you feel like the odd one out?

He left 3 weeks ago. He’s still my first thought every morning, and I think about him for hours everyday. Normal? When does it go away?

How many of you are doing back up care/day care/ child care vs managing children at home? What's your thoughts around this, pros and cons?

This is super weird but I feel like I can’t relate easily to people. Hear me out - I moved and lived in different continents, countries every 5 years or so until now… I feel like I’m an outlier and my life is super different from anyone else’s. I have some friends I’ve met at each stage of my life, but it’s been temporary. I feel like I’m always going in a different direction than others. It makes it difficult to have a stable life and close friends..

How practical is living as a single parent in Europe (scotland/Norway)?

Is getting back together with an ex always a bad idea?

What are some good child care options for single parents? Have a toddler that is in preschool, but need to think about child care after school. Currently have my parents helping out with the child care, but they are not a long-term solution. Don’t know what my options are… especially when I have to travel in the future. Thinking about au pair as it seems like a cost effective solution, but wondering what other options are?

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

Looking for a suggestion for a date spot that would be convenient and a good halfway meeting point: i’m in Murray Hill and my date is coming from Astoria. I usually have my dates meet me here when they live in Manhattan but I think somewhere halfway would be more fair in this case. Ideas?

Michael Burry comments make me want to run to cash

I see a lot of people who have crippling anxiety here work out to feel better. My crippling anxiety kind of paralysis my legs (or at least feels like it to the point that I can’t even walk). Does anyone have similar symptoms and solution for it?
I am in therapy right now but just wanted to hear from someone who is also going through it

Does anyone have insights into recruiting at the Dubai office? Have things slowed down?

How much more does advisory make over the SDC at the same level? I’m a senior 2 in the southeast and make 73....

I work for a nightmare of a CHRO. 100% bottom-line, 0% empathy. My husband and I decided to move out of state (back to where we are from) with a job lined up. What’s the best way to break this news to the most misogynistic, arrogant and elitist human ever? The concept of “Burning Bridges” is more than welcome.

I Want to maintain engagement and morale on a long project and staring an MS Teams Channel to post recognition and engagement events with staff. Stumped on what to call it… any suggestions? So far “Good news and more” is all I got. TIA

What the hell happened at Arnold today?

Has anyone tried buying same day box office concert tickets at MSG? Is it cheaper?

Parents who live in new Canaan, Westport, - where do you work? If Manhattan- any commuting tricks?

Feel like I’m stuck. I’m a senior manager (CPA) in international tax but considering a do-over to be more desirable to the industry. If you had to start over (with industry as your end goal) what focus area would you choose?

Any reviews about HCL UOB Project work, technology stack and wlb in this project? I have an offer from HCL? Need inputs on the wlb and job security in HCL

Guys can you please tell me how much Infosys gave salary to fresher per month with deduction.. !

Hi Fishes,

What is average salary offered for senior product manager at S&P global market intelligence? Yoe-7 relevant-5

I am being offered 26lpa which includes 15% variable component plus employer contribution to PF. So, the fixed component is just 21. How much more can I negotiate for? Have existing offer of 23l (all fixed)

I know this question is asked a lot, but what are some good non-legal fields or jd preferred jobs for lawyers who no longer want to practice? If you left the field of law, how did you know it wasn’t the right career for you?

Hey fishes. Just got a mail from Deloitte that the lease for my Laptop has expired and I have to visit the nearest Deloitte office to replace it. My base location is in Gurgaon but my nearest office is in Kolkata and currently I am at my home. Can I get it replaced from Kolkata office? And what is the general time frame for replacement. Can I visit after an week or so?

Anybody here an Account Manager at AON?

How do you like it?

What company runs the background check?

My partner and I are planning to elope. We want the wedding and the trip that will go with it to be for us. That being said, we want to throw a party of some kind to celebrate with our friends. We're pretty lost as far as the general etiquette around this goes. Do you have to tell venues it's for a "wedding" reception? Is it expected that we will still make a gift registry?

Budget friendly bridesmaid proposals if you’d still like to give a small token in addition to a card?

We’re having an Indian wedding on a Sunday with ceremony in the morning, followed by lunch, and then cocktail hour + reception.

Given that the wedding starts early, we will have guests (~30) flying in the day before. What is the expectation in terms of arranging dinner for them? We’re trying to avoid having an additional event Saturday night - any idea on if these guests would need to have food arranged for them by us and what that could look like on a cost effective budget.

How much did you spend on your wedding? Do you regret it? Also please share the location of your wedding if possible. Thank you!

If I got married on a Sunday, could I use the flowers from the wedding the night before? (Anything they were going to leave behind like hanging installations) Seems like a waste for that decor to be trashed and an opportunity to pay it forward. Has anyone done this?

For those who had Catholic ceremonies.. What kind of shoes did you wear that had bottom soles that looked nice in pics? In other words, shoes with bottoms that don’t look scratched up when you are kneeling at the altar.

What do you think about lab-grown diamonds? My fiance and I are trying to be as ethical as possible, and lab-grown sounds like an awesome idea, but we're wondering about the quality and longevity. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

Tux budget NYC?

Considering getting highlights and/or extensions for my wedding. Is it worth it? Or is it a bad idea to update your hair for the wedding?

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

Have you talked about your wedding with coworkers? I made the mistake of saying I had to leave work a little early one day because I was going to do a tasting at my venue. That starts a debate on why one shouldn’t get married, how much wedding costs & what a waste it is, dresses are stupid because you only wear them once, etc. I haven’t talked about my wedding much, but I didn’t appreciate this. I ignored the negative comments and we moved the conversation along. Not talking about that anymore!

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

We decided to do a photo session before the wedding for the two of us and family. The photographer and the location were amazing but the makeup was terrible, and because I was low on time, I couldn't fix it before the photos. The makeup artist make me look yellow! Idk if there's anything that could be done at this point, but feeling so disappointed :(

Looking for craft ideas for the first evening of a Bachelorette weekend getaway. All ideas welcome!

Anyone else’s mom driving them crazy about mother of the bride dresses? Wedding is a little over a year out 😂 Any store recommendations for MOB dresses?

Are you paying for bridesmaid hair and make-up? Was a little sticker shocked $200 per person before gratuity, just adds up quickly with that many people😬 Not requiring it but wanted to offer it if they want to be more glammed up, but now seeing online that’s it’s considered quite rude to not cover it for them? Maybe just cover one and they can do the other if they want? Don’t want to be rude if it’s expected but also don’t want to blow our budget… any perspective on the “norm” appreciated!

So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

Getting married in September, have a vax only policy for guests. My fiancé’s sister is bringing her unvaccinated spouse to the hotel where all the wedding festivities are being held b/c she is too scared to fly on an airplane without him. I find this incredibly uncomfortable and selfish given it will put me and my fiancé in an uncomfortable position (and it will also put my elderly parents and other vulnerable fam members at risk). Any ideas as to what (if anything) to do?

What is your total “wedding look” budget/est. spend? (Everything including dress, make up, jewelry, shoes, outfit changes, accessories, etc.). I have put so much emphasis on my looks (no regrets) and I actually just tallied up my spend and my head almost exploded. Frankly just seeking a little validation that I am not the only crazy person out there 🙃

I don't wear a lot of makeup - how far in advance from the ceremony should I be getting it done? Is having it all done 2 hrs before the ceremony too late or too early? I'm not getting pictures done until ceremony and after. Thanks!