Is it normal for attorneys to swear at you? Or be rude towards you when there’s something that goes wrong but it wasn’t your fault? How frequently should I let it slide by? Should I say something?

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It is not appropriate, but it does happen. How you deal with it depends on your situation. In some cases it works to tell the person they shouldn’t treat you that way. In others, you might just set yourself up for more bullying that way. Another solution is to leave. Good luck and I am sorry you are having to deal with an a$$.

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It's interesting that most comments say it's not normal. I must have a big X on my back. It is not unusual for some, not all, attorneys to swear, yell, and complain. One said he would always say if he was wrong. Rarely happened. Mistakes happen. The toxic atmosphere usually creates more mistakes than a more professional atmosphere. If your attorney is a partner or someone who carries a lot of weight at the firm, they already know the attorney is a jerk and aren't willing to do anything about it.

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Yea can’t fight a rainmaker.

It isn't normal for anyone to speak to you in a disrespectful manner. These attorneys have a lot of nerve and it's utterly disgusting. I've been a paralegal for over 20 years and believed that I had no choice but to accept the toxic things that happened. Leave as soon as you can and do something different. You don't have to put up with abuse and being in a toxic environment.

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You should leave. People like that don't change. Offices like that don't change. It should not be permissible behavior, period.

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We have zero tolerance for that at my firm. They will often swear around me but never to me/other staff. I would immediately be in with HR.

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Absolutely notttttt to any of it. I would say something to your HR department or upper management about that. That is unacceptable behavior.

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Normal yes, acceptable no. I document this behavior until you figure out how you’d like to proceed. (Not talking legal action but at least have some sort of proof to back up your claims when you choose to confront them or hr about it).

Or simply say I see you’re upset. I will come back later when you’re much calmer.

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