Is it overwhelming and scary to move to a new city, state for a job when you have young kids? How did you manage if you’ve ever done it?

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Often the new job will offer relocation assistance, a paid flight out for you and your spouse to go house hunting/get to know the area, some time in corporate paid housing when you arrive and a company to help manage the process.

I recommend renting for a year or at least using that corporate housing time before you buy. You won't really be able to tell if you are picking the right area for your family until you live there and see if it works. I haven't ever hit it right on the first time. Alway end up moving after a year to dial in the right combo of commute, amenities, and culture.

If you need daycare...good luck. The wait list in most bbig cities is long for the good ones.

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In my case, my wife received a job offer in Bay area and then my consulting firm approved my move. I had a 2 year old at that time. It was challenging but a few stars lined to help my case. If your kids are older and/or your spouse has a job he/she likes, it becomes more challenging. It depends a lot on your personal situation.

Start out by renting in the city where you plan to settle and getting used to the area and job before you commit to purchasing real estate. Took me 3 years to buy real.estate but we are picky but I was pretty sure Bay area is the place in no time.

YEMV.

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Moved abt 6 months ago into a medium sized city. Took us 2 months to find a house, stayed a month in a hotel and then moved into the house. Few things helped. Wife had quit her job at that point and was passively looking. Relocation assistance by the hiring company. New city 2 hours away.

Kids are young but not babies. They never enjoy the change but wife was with them to get them settled in.

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Thanks all! I’ve lived in Texas all my life but wonder if I shouldn’t try and venture out. I’ve got a 2 year old and a husband that isn’t tied to his job so sounds like if I’m ever going to do it.. now’s the time.

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@OP I’d definitely recommend that you venture out. Changing your surroundings and getting exposure to new places/people/cultures/etc. can be extremely rewarding.

Once the kids are older it becomes much harder to justify uprooting the family (kids have lives, spouses get more ingrained in BAU, you also become less inclined to change)

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I've done it twice. Kids were not in school either time. Like others mentioned, hiring company will offer relo, if you don't get temp housing first as part of that package town shop first. Use city-data.com and review key stats like house value and income per capita. Compare those numbers to towns you know so you can construct a paradigm. Think about your commute and what your lifestyle is like to structure your requirements. Learn by doing. Jump in. Get your kids talking about moving, get kids books about the topic. Don't wait to bring it up to them...let them process.

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We were thinking of moving for sometime, so when I applied, we prediscussed that I will accept and move. Few criteria that we used to prioritize and make decisions - new city has better economy so wife can find a job easily, school districts were equivalent and good, commute was equal or less, and lastly, it was to be slightly warmer in the new city. Key rule was to stop my travel so I can be home everyday.

I think moving when your kid is younger is way better than when they’re older. My parents moved a couple times when I was older and it really set me back socially and academically. Do it now while your kid won’t remember losing all of his/her friends

I have moved many times throughout childhood and adulthood. There will be a couple of times (both right before and right after you move) where you question your decision, but long term you will be so grateful you did it.

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