People that have small children - how do you deal with your child’s stress and separation anxiety when you go to work? My 4-year old goes berserk almost every day at some point relating to me having to work. The worst part is that I’ve been working from home bc of Covid and I’m literally just walking upstairs after giving hugs and kisses and saying see you soon 800 times. My spouse is a stay at home parent, but that doesn’t seem to matter to my son. A piece of me dies everyday because of this.

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My 2 year old freaks out for about 15 seconds and then I hug him at the door at daycare and he settles down once he sees his friends. Perhaps a daycare or other program could help? At 4 I'm sure it's beneficial to spend at least a half day socializing with peers of their same age.

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We have a half day preschool lined up in the fall. Really hoping that does help. Thanks!

Don’t make going to the office (even if the “office” is upstairs) a big deal and don’t indulge with the 800 “see you soons.” Let him scream it out even if it’s an hour+. Eventually he’ll get over it and get used to it. I know it’s super hard but we had to do it with our kids too and it works. Just takes patience and consistency.

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Thanks. I’ll try that. Unfortunately the tantrums seriously aggravate my spouse and then it just escalates between them and I start to feel guilty, so I’ve been trying to play peacekeeper. But probably over indulging my kid a bit too much in the process to your point.

What I tell everyone...check out big little feelings on Instagram (even if you don’t purchase the course). They have lots of strategies for dealing with toddlers and have helped me and my SO.

I always try to think that kids brains are not developed and if we don’t give them the coping skills to deal with unpleasant feelings, how can we expect them to cope?

Good luck - tantrums are the worst 😩

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Thank you! Definitely will check that out!

I have a child the same age. He gets upset but only for 60 seconds. Then gets distracted by whatever toys are around him.

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I wonder if the actual separation will make it easier? One thought is for the caregiver to have an activity planned for right when you leave so there’s a good distraction.

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