“It doesn’t matter that you were born and raised here and speak flawless English. You can dye your hair and color your eyes—you will never be considered American at work.” Thanks for the optimism, Mom

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Tell her you’re not trying to be an American at work. Tell her that is too low of an ambition. Tell her you’re trying to be a kick-ass, successful, bright consultant?

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Also don't change your eye color. It looks terrible.

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Yeah but you can play the hot ethnic woman card.

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I get you OP, I hear the same thing - their way of trying to look out, but here's to hoping it's different for us!

She is right. But you don't need to be.

And she’s right.

Funny PwC 1 thought female and I thought op a male.

A4 this is a typical put down from an Indian mom or Asian Mom, usually aimed at a girl.

Tell her that no one gives a shit. As long as people have some relatable hobbies e.g. cycling, skiing, travel it's easy to pass the proverbial airport test.

Oh my indian mom doesn't say this - but she has her putdowns in a different niche lol

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