It really bothers me that my manager one offs me on email threads to tell me what to do or sayAND CC’S MY SUPERVISOR. It makes me look like I have no idea what I’m doing. How do I tell him to stop doing this politely lol

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You have a manager and a supervisor??

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Ahhhh that’s fucked up then.

The joys of micro managing

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He also just belittles me in meetings too. Things I’m supposed to be leading he takes total control over and I genuinely don’t think I’m fucking anything up. He’s just extremely nit picky and everything needs to be done his way.

Document each instance he does this. Ask for a 1:1 or a meeting with the manager and sup and explain that you’d like to take on more responsibility for your current level, cite those moments and let him know you’d like to use those exact moments as a way to prove your leadership skills for career progression

Im sorry he does that though. Its beyond infuriating and I’ve had similar experiences in the past. Usually just moved around to avoid those types of people if I couldn’t take it anymore

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Are you sure they don’t literally have to do this? Process wise of they’re not your supervisor, your supervisor may have requested they’re cced on any notes they have for you. Otherwise it could be going behind yo ur supervisors back

Means you’re not delivering to their standard. Respectfully respond to the emails. If f you’re on them, you have the right. Often, they include you to validate their point of frustration. If you do this, they will have a talk with you which is a great time to get in the same page.

That happened to me, tried to fix it and nothing worked because I was dealing with a micromanager, so I left

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