I’ve accepted a new role at a tech company and it’s an L7. I should be happy to have this, but I not excited about the role and have this sense of dread about it. That I’m (1) going to f*** it up (2) end up working 80-90+ hrs per week like at BCG, and (3) that my career is over. I’m 40 and was told I would not make MDP (equity partner) last year and was exited. I’ve been realizing my mistakes and how stupid I’ve been about things over the past few years and can’t seem to stop beating myself up.

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First off - congratulations! You may not feel this way, but that’s an incredible accomplishment that I myself and many of my peers would aspire to. You will have a lot of influence on many others, as I’m sure you did at BCG.

When you are envision the scenario that you’ll screw it up / end up pulling long hours, what are the reasons for that? In other words, digging deeper, what would cause situations that would compromise your goals / performance? Make a (mental or physical) list of these and rate from 1-10: 1/ How bad would it be if this happened (1 no one but me will notice or care — 10 the entire company could go bankrupt) and 2/ What is the likelihood of this actually happening?

And for the ones that are highly likely and damaging - 3/ What are steps I can take now or in the future to mitigate that? For each, how much of a lift will it be and what can I do to be prepared?

And finally, 4/ What am I able to do (both within and outside your new role) that I wasn’t able to at BCG?

My dad reached his dream cxo role at 57, after 30 years at a co. My favorite restaurant in the world (which recently got 1 Michelin) was started by a retired army nurse when he turned 60. My SO is actually your age and a very happy BCG PL (non-North America). We can choose if things happen “to” us or “for” us.

Good luck!!! Don’t beat yourself up before you get started. Fun is just beginning :)

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EM1 can we be friends? You are so wholesome.

Congrats on the new role. L7 is the director lvl? Comp should be very good! And will open new doors.

L7 is pre director

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