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Yes! I was the same way! I grew up traveling and never had a fear of flying. I started to feel anxious flying and realized it wasn’t a fear of flying, it was a fear of dying- which I also never had before I had my daughter.
I came up with a ritual before travel that works well for me (and works really well when your kids can read): I hide stickie note love notes all over the house for my daughter before I leave. If I take off early, I do it after she’s in bed the night before. Otherwise I do it when she is at school. I hide them in drawers, put them on the ceiling, in her shoes, etc. it’s like a fun treasure hunt for her and it made me feel better. The nerves faded a few years ago but I still do this because it is fun.
Definitely don't watch on repeat that DHL plane splitting in half. Many people are feeling some sort of fear by reentering their traditional life habits. I'm on vacation this week and heavy currents kept me from my favorite hobby of scuba diving. My risk tolerance definitely shifted during the pandemic and having my 2nd at the start of it.
This might not help but please please please get a life insurance policy that is sizable enough to really help your spouse and kids transition if something happened to you. Just happened to a friend of mine, very small policy, very large future problems
Got a $2M policy when I had my first, just in case / peace of mind.
I developed some minor anxiety after a kid as well related to my own fear of death. Pre-kids I guess I felt my wife would move on with her life if anything happened to me. Now it’s on me to be here. I did take out a sizable life insurance policy. Enough that my wife will never need to work again and also pay for my kids schooling.
I just had my 3rd and realized that I just can’t / won’t travel like I used to. Finally time to leave!
I used to commute at least 35 miles each way in the car. Hadn’t driven that far since the pandemic. First time I got on a highway flyover since, I felt an irrational anxiety that I would lose control, and well, flyover.
Never happened before. Clearly readjusting is going to take some time and effort for me.
Like you said, it feels like my risk awareness is hyperactive.
Good luck to you!
I anticipated this kind of anxiety could hit me during my paternity leave and anyways I was burnt out due to consulting grind, so decided to leave consulting during my paternity. Moved to industry, let’s see how that goes
Good luck ! I’m right there with you. Looking for the right door out of here
I can totally relate to this! What's been helping me is focusing only on the things I am able to control. And letting go off the things I cannot. I love on my kids and try to be present while I'm with them. I hope your anxiety subsides!
Same here OP, first time flying after having a kid was scary. My mind would stop racing around the same point you made - “what if…” and have I made good enough plans for my family just in case. I know how you feel.
Honestly, calling my family right before and after my flight, helps lower my anxiety. Not completely but it helps.
Hey fellow dad, this is totally normal. The stakes are higher now. I used to be Mr Fight Club, praying for a midair collision just for excitement. now I am 100% risk adverse. Anything more than getting a sun burn makes me avoid a situation completely. The kids are there and the stakes are sky high. Everything is Russian roulette. You are having a normal experience
I bring an umbrella with me to the beach now 😂
You're not alone. Your first practical decision is to get a real life insurance policy. Don't rely on the one through your employer.
After that, realize that flying is factually still one of the safest things you do every day.
As to being away from your kids, that's just something you'll acclimatize to. Use video chats at night. But this is going to be something that just needs time.
I am seriously thinking to leave travel