Laterals during covid from big law to big law. How do you deal with the loneliness? Zoom isn’t helpful for me.

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Being an introvert helped.

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My fiancée made this same move and is having a tough time with it as well.

She has found it helpful to reach out to other laterals because they are either going through the same thing (lateral x COVID) or went through the same thing (lateral), both of which can be isolating. She set up a weekly call with two of them and they’ve become friends without ever meeting in person.

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Great idea!!!

Following for tips. I join some of the social zoom calls, but I feel totally isolated from my peers right now.

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