Long story but I’m now the sole guardian of my younger siblings (both teenagers). For those with older kids, how do you do juggle family stuff during the week? What do you do on wknds?

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Sending strength your way OP.

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OP what a rolemodel when people keep asking questions here on how to steal bathrobes or umbrellas you genuinely want to be a good brother- I respect your spirit

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Thanks Everyone! Didn’t think I’d be a parent to two teens at 30. Any other suggestions you all may have on how to juggle work/travel with spending family time, please let me know

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I'm 30 and I'm the legal guardian for my younger siblings,11 and 9. Best thing happen to me. They are awesome, and I didn't need to change their diapers anymore 🙄😅😎

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Make sure you can trust them and they can trust you. Teenage temptations like drinking, drugs, sex - everyone deals with it a different way and it might be good to have a conversation with them where they feel like they can go to you for support or advice if they ever need it.

Can they drive themselves/each other to school and back? Can you relocate from work to be home in the evening? I think stability and presence at home is impt at that age, even if they’re teens and relatively self sufficient. Sitting down for dinner together will go a long way. Your work should be able to work around them.

Thoughts are with you, OP!

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We all need to start a support group. 11 and 9 year old siblings as well. It’s overwhelming at times

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Can’t help but I feel. My now wife-then gf had custody of her 16 year old sis for 2 years. When we were 22 and 24.

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OP, I have a 20 yo and a 17 yo, so I can tell you that teenagers can be fun. Since I had both of them on sports, our weekends were spent taking them to tournaments and such. When they are not playing, we go on hikes, do road trips or concerts. Try to get them involve in activities that you like as well as activities that they like.

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Hang in there!

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You’re in my prayers OP. Good to see some heart in the industry every now and again

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Bain1 thanks for the advice. Even before they moved in with me full time, we had a good relationship and I trust them to make good decisions. I’ve had the talk with them several times and we face time once a day so I can check in. Neither can drive yet, but they have the bus and they occasionally car pool. We’ve been able to make it work for almost 9 months now, and it’s a pretty stable home life so far.

But trying to do more family things is much harder when they’re teenagers. They are either busy with school/sports or just hang with friends. Teenage years are so much harder now than before so I want to find ways for us to still feel connected and a family. So far we do Sunday/Saturday breakfast, but any other tips will be helpful

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M1 how do you know that Op is a guy?

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How old are you?

That’s really great to hear!

I think being busy with school/friends is common as a teen - so having that daily dinner where possible or weekend meals, like you’re doing, is probably enough. You could do a bigger family thing like a trip over breaks, but there’s no need to do anything big if you have enough of he smaller touchpoints there - at least that’s how I define family and my experience with my parents 😊

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