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Like you’re all at lunch talking shit and someone says how you’d go out and rage and he comes to your feminism induced, societally programed defense, and says “nah, OPs a good girl”?
Or,
You finish your slide and show him and he gives you a good game pat on the ass and says (in his creepiest “we’re talking about your job here” voice), “that’s a good girl”?
Actually though, what is the context? I'm thinking about a situation where somebody is like, "have you worked with Jim before, how us he?", "Oh he's a good guy, but not a very hard worker". Wouldn't good girl be the equivalent here?
Report that sexist bullshit
Although wrong in this setting, I would like to know if you’re actually a good girl
@D2 - Please provide a context where referring to an adult female coworker as “Good girl” could be considered professional and proper
It’s never ok to call a grown woman a good girl, no matter what gender you are. I’m not a dog, I’m not a child, just infuriating
@SM1 - No, it would be. “She’s good” “She’s good at her job” but never “She’s a good girl” - that’s reserved for pets, ships and sometimes cars.
I feel like this thread is racist toward dogs. Love dogs 🐶 💕
Have a one on one immediately.
That’s f-ed up. Tell your SM to call you by your name; you’re not a child or a dog
Responses to this thread are atrocious fam.
“Say my name" may not be a good response though...
Yea or maybe tell them first
Just tell him straight up what you told us... I don’t appreciate being called a “good girl”. How would you feel if someone told you you were being a “good boy”? That should do it
Holding other woman accountable for denigrating other woman with their language is NOT delegitimizing the feminist movement. In fact, capitulating to internalized misogyny is the antithesis of feminism. For me the point of feminism is to purely protect women from men, it to ensure equal treatment to all humans from anyone that threatens their dignity and humanity
What if in the 1 on 1, he goes would you prefer being called a "bad girl" instead of s good girl. Just speculating but better be prepared with a good response
Love how everyone speculated the SM was a male but was actually a female....says a lot about you
Please do not be naive and assume it was good job girl. OP would not be upset if the tone indicated that
Context is everything. Without that, we can’t say anything about this
Deloitte takes sexism very seriously and I would imagine there could be severe consequences if you reported her. That said, in your situation I would ask for a 1-1 with her and discuss your feelings about it privately. She most likely doesn’t realize she offended you, and might be horrified when you point it out.
Of course there is risk involved whenever you complain, that the person may label you a troublemaker or otherwise seek to harm your reputation, but if you discussed it privately with her and made it clear you did not want to make a big issue out of it, I think most reasonable people would appreciate that approach rather than running to HR.