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I have 50% custody of 2 little kids and my ex earns about 2x more than me, we leave in HCOL area (California, SF Bay area) and I get about $2500/month child support. I work full time, child care costs are split 50/50, and in practice almost all of my child support goes right to the child care provider.
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But I thought I’d taken to court, judges want to ensure the kids have the same quality of life...
It varies from state to state. In FL my attorney did a child support calculation using respective salaries to figure out child support that my ex pays. Is child support not mandatory in your state?
Certainly a question to ask your attorney. In FL you do a child support calculation for 50/50 as well, that is how my attorney did it, the judge did not have to be involved with that as software calculates it all. Are you at a stage where you are unable to agree on issues & have to ask a judge? Thankfully my divorce didn’t get that far & we were able to settle without a judge.