Looking for perspective here! I’m worried that my ex is going to refuse to pay child support and take me to court over it. And I’m worried that somehow support won’t be given. In your collective experiences, do judges award child support in 50/50 custody cases if the husband makes more a good deal more income? My ex makes 60% of hhi and I make 40%, but live in a HCOL area so really need support to help pay rent. My lawyer says I can’t make the rent case because I can move somewhere cheaper.

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I have 50% custody of 2 little kids and my ex earns about 2x more than me, we leave in HCOL area (California, SF Bay area) and I get about $2500/month child support. I work full time, child care costs are split 50/50, and in practice almost all of my child support goes right to the child care provider.

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But I thought I’d taken to court, judges want to ensure the kids have the same quality of life...

It varies from state to state. In FL my attorney did a child support calculation using respective salaries to figure out child support that my ex pays. Is child support not mandatory in your state?

Certainly a question to ask your attorney. In FL you do a child support calculation for 50/50 as well, that is how my attorney did it, the judge did not have to be involved with that as software calculates it all. Are you at a stage where you are unable to agree on issues & have to ask a judge? Thankfully my divorce didn’t get that far & we were able to settle without a judge.

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