Looking for your thoughts: I work at a large company and have been there for several years. I have brought up the issue of lack of representation as well as the importance of DEI, etc. anyways, this summer I lost a parent. It was devastating but I tried to work through as much as I could before taking time off. I noticed today I never received a card or flowers from my company. When others have lost someone, there is a card that is sent for everyone to sign and sometimes flowers delivered. Cont-

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I definitely don’t think you’re overthinking. People often have unconscious biases and that may be at play here.

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Thank you!

I'm sorry that that happened to you. I agree with SPM1, I also don't think you are overthinking. And in giving people the benefit of not assuming negative intentions, I doubt that they actively conspired not to send you a card/flowers, but it was the result of some messed up manifestation of unconscious bias

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Continued- I noticed however out of all my colleagues that lost someone and I signed their cards, etc, I am the only POC. Am I overthinking? I don’t mean to compare tragedies, just the treatment of each.

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You’re not overthinking. Black grief and traumatic life experiences don’t matter because many of them only feel empathy for those who look like them. I honestly would start looking.

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Hows your relationship with your boss? In the past. I noticed it’s the persons boss who does the flowers. Bdays, baby showers etc. It usually doesn’t come from the company per se. It’s more the boss putting in the request & getting cards signed.

There is no excuse.

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