Mamas. I’m headed back to work Friday after what feels like the shortest 12 weeks of my life.

Any advice or words of wisdom for this new mom? Expecting an emotional rollercoaster.

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Yes so much. 1. Be clear about your hours with your boss and team and never budge, even once. For me it’s 9.30-5.30 every single day. 2. Find your support network at work. If it doesn’t exist, build it. Use other people’s collective wisdom to help you navigate this first year. And 3. Know that most moms in our industry drop out at one year back at work. So make sustainable practices, projects and clients the goal.

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Be kind and patient with yourself.
If you are pumping, respect the time you’ve reserved to do that. It will be emotionally (and mentally) exhausting, you don’t need to add physically painful into the mix (learned that one the hard way).
Congratulations on becoming a Mom and wish you the best on your first day back!

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Just offering a counterpoint. I was so nervous to go back and expecting my first day to be a complete mess. To my surprise, I was fine. Happy to be back around adults. Everyone is different but you may be pleasantly surprised!

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Set boundaries from the beginning. And everyone will be ok with them. When I went back to work I let meetings overlap with my pumping time way too quickly. Everyone was fine with it but I wanted to catch up. It’s ok to protect your time!

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Never apologize.

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Thank you, thank you. Before your comments, I felt like I’d need to ask permission for my new way of working. I’ll try to be strong! Not many moms around my agency (very telling.)

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Be the change 💪🏼

Ease into it. Ask for shortened hours the first two weeks as you get back into the groove. Be firm and never budge on your leaving time or people will expect it. The first week was the hardest for me. I was sad looking at photos but it gets easier. I’ve learned to emotionally detach from baby during the day, then rush home in the evening.

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