Married folks- How are you guys having safe s*x? There's a urge to do it without any protection but how do you ensure that you/your SO is not getting pregnant. There's always a fear that something might happen because you're not ready for kids. What is your safest way?

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She uses an IUD and it’s worked for several years so far… please don’t listen to the 5-day window suggestion - recipe to get pregnant :)

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I have an implant in my arm because I don't want to risk getting pregnant. I have a friend who was following her cycle and ovulation calendar and ended up getting pregnant any how. For me birth control is the safest option.

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IUD and / or vasectomy

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Don’t rely in that 5 days thing… it’s super risky.. branded condoms , copper T , vasactomy

Or just live with blow jobs .. 69 *wink*

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M more than happy to chat about it… ping me if u feel like chatting

Look into the Daysy fertility tracker It’s backed by several studies, gives you a yes or no for unprotected s*x based on basal temperature.

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We have done it many times a week for all twenty four years together. We have three kids. Two on purpose and one because the IUD malfunctioned. She had her tubes tied after three. Continue without protection. Now that she’s going older, there is less worry that the tied tubes could heal.

But we really like doing it.

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Condom.. pull out.. do other sexy stuff that won't run risk of impregnation.. abstain.. is the lady happy to go on the pill.. is the guy happy to get a vasectomy.

Choices choices.

Oh, to answer, I used a condom when my wife went off the pill.. then we were ready to have a baby.

Stick to the female cycle. There are only 5 days in which a pregnancy could happen.

Why? It's literally true. Natural family planning and pull out method are all I've ever used and I've only ever gotten pregnant when I've wanted to. I did hormonal birth control for several years in my 20s and it messed me up so much that I never looked back. Avoid birth control like the plague. Condoms or no sex during ovulation. Simple

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What is this 5 day window to get pregnant?
Me & my wife have been planning for pregnancy..

I also used the Flo app. Took us about 6 months to conceive after getting off BC and using the app to track fertile windows.

To summarise based on everyone's response so far, the safest option is IUD and all others are just myths or folks have been lucky with those options.

Well IUD- Any side effect or anything concerning for the future when we want to conceive?

About 3 years in

Condoms when we didn’t want to get pregnant. I had a vasectomy after the third child and that solved it.

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Oh, you want to mate /and/ breed

1-2 weeks I’m behind you

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IUD
Birth control pills
Condoms

This is not a difficult question, and it astounds me that’s it’s being asked on a site full of professional adults.

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