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Hey Guys,
I got a call from Infosys HR on 16-September-2022 that I have been successfully selected for the job position of Test Analyst at Infosys, as per our conversation I have to receive an offer letter within 15 days, but I haven’t received it till now.
Now They have sent a mail that your Candidature is on hold. Is this happened with anyone else also.
Please do suggest on this guys.
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Having a kid was the best thing ever happening to me beats traveling and fun weekends
You don’t travel with your kids?
My husband and I don’t have children by choice and couldn’t be happier. We get to sleep in on weekends, fill our days with activities that interest us, and take amazing trips. We are also going to retire at 52.
I completely understand that there is a love and joy kids bring that I’ll never experience. And I’m okay with that. Most parents I know are exhausted. A couple of them have even confided in me that they are envious of my life choices.
If you don’t have children, my advise is to find purpose elsewhere - hobbies, volunteering, etc. Your friends will begin to have kids and for a while, that will become their purpose…at least for many of them. I am very involved with volunteering at a dog shelter and live in a place where I can mountain bike and ski. I feel very fulfilled and have zero regrets I didn’t have kids.
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TL1 - I've met more women who openly proclaim they don't want kids than men.
That said, according to PEW both genders are equally likely to say they don't want kids: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2021/11/19/growing-share-of-childless-adults-in-u-s-dont-expect-to-ever-have-children/
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It’s really hard work. If you’re both not truly certain you want kids, then you probably don’t.
Kids are the best thing I’ve ever done, but also by far the hardest thing I’ve ever done. You and your partner need to be 100% onboard and also need to be the best team.
I wish you could adopt a child after 18 who already has a job and money.
Adults adopting adults is a show on TLC (I think) with this general premise. I haven’t watched so not sure how much of the process they show
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There are only so many nights out, fancy michelin starred dinners, club parties till 6am, and exotic destinations one can consume before it all becomes more or less the same. If thats all you two want out of life and you can be happy with it, then thats great. But if you have some curiosity or hunger to go to the next chapter, if you want to see what biology has in store, or if you want to make the biggest investment into a project you and your spouse will grow to love in a pure and biological way that could never otherwise be understood.. well there’s your answer..
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Invalidating one item on a list of possible examples does not invalidate the argument 😪
I have a 11 year old son and a 15 year old daughter. They are both good kids and excel at most things.
I guess for me the meaning of life is to procreate and have children, grand children etc. All the hard work I do is to make my family stronger, not for myself but for my kids and grandkids.
Pros: Sense of purpose (no more floating through life), sense of accomplishment when they succeed, it’s a way of living forever as you pass your knowledge to them, you can literally change the world by replacing yourself with a better version, dogs last 12 years/kids 70+ years, unlimited entertainment, help avoid population collapse (basically once the majority of the population is outside productive ages society collapses). Most people think the world is over populated, but you’ll live in poverty in your older years if productive people don’t replace you. Old age will be lonely. Your friends, parents, spouse may die before you. Leaving only children and strangers to help you when you need it most.
Cons: They are expensive. They’ll blame you for everything bad in their life. The first couple years is tough, but then it gets easier. You only get out of them what you put in. So if the school raises them you won’t see a lot of value. If you put the work in you’ll have an amazing younger version by your side for the rest of your life.
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I don’t know that I’d have kids for like “company”. At least one you needs to WANT the kid-raising piece of the experience (And the other needs to as well or at least be fully committed to the responsibility and emotional requirements)
We just felt we wanted a child. It's the most amazing experience, it's on a league of its own so it can't really be described. However, it's a lot of work, it may impact your career, it will definitely change your traveling plans (although we spent a month in Europe with our LO and it was amazing), it's very expensive, will push your retirement date, you will be tired most days and when they get sick you're going to question your life decisions 😂. However, I wouldn't change anything, I love my daughter and it's the best thing that happened or ever happen to me.
Nonetheless, I don't want more kids, my wife and I don't have the bandwidth, patience, budget and stomach to go through this again.
I you don't really feel the need, don't rush it. My recommendation is to have regular checkpoints with your SO. I know two couples that regretted their decisions, one waited forever because they wanted to travel, they waited so long they missed the train and now regret it. The other couple, one person didn't want to have kids and never told the other one, they are getting divorced, they both regret not having the talk much earlier.
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They usually come with a five-year return policy, so you should go for it.
Or, if you want to try before you buy, some folks will let you borrow theirs for a while.
If you aren't sure, don't.
My wife and I just had our first kid 6 weeks ago. It has been the most exhausting but rewarding experience ever. We always knew wanted to start a family to share our love. I would say that this journey has brought us even closer together so far.
Please don't have kids "just because" or if you think they'll help you make new adult friends.
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Just have the kids. Kids are incredible. People who don’t have children never understand the new level of awakening that happens with your soul until they experience it.
What's up with all these professionals not wanting to have kids? It's an honest question. I was raised that you find the love of your live and next big thing is making a creature and raising it together.....
I am genuinely worried about our world legacy.
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Once you become a parent, you realize nothing is more important.
I was certain I wanted kids, no after having one I actually feel trapped. Trapped because I do feel that all encompassing love that you feel for a child, but I also still want all of the freedom and things that I used to have. I simultaneously regret and am happy with the decision we made. Looking back, I don’t think I would have made a different decision, but even saying that isn’t clear cut.
The more you think the more you will confuse yourself.
You can have just one kid instead of 2-3 kids. This way you experience best of both worlds, one kid is easily manageable for sure between parents, daycare, nanny, family support etc.
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My husband and I decided not to have kids. I’m 31 and he’s 34. We made our decision together about a year ago and it’s been life changing.
My 2 cents, if your even contemplating having kids, take the leap. I don't think that feeling will ever go away and life with kids is an adventure in it self. With kids there are so many different stages of there lives, it can great, entertaining and fulfilling while at the same time it can be cringe, exhausting and hard.
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I'm in my mid 20s and I know I want kids. I would like 2-3 only because I grew up in a big family (tons of cousins, 2nd cousins around). I love being a part of a big family.
Another reason is because I want to give my children all the things I didn't have growing up. It's almost like a little mini me that you can teach and watch grow up.
I’m single (divorced/widowed) and child free, no regrets.
However if I were married I think I’d want kids, Without them I think a marriage is less likely to last.
How old are you OP and how long have you been together?