Mother in Law visits a few times a year but will stay over night for 2 weeks at a time. She also stays during Christmas which Is the time of year where we can all finally take off and relax. Any advice on how my wife and I can communicate that the stays are a little lengthy especially while I take off?

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Your wife needs to have that convo before she visits. This is a convo between you and your wife first

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My wife always wanted to visit her parents when we both had off and then would complain when we weren’t doing anything besides visiting her family.

I made her aware of what we were doing and that if we wanted to do other things, she had to be able to answer “when are you coming to visit” with something other than soon because she feels guilty.

Now we plan our vacations, then our family time. For your own sanity, you need to create those boundaries. Especially if you like your in-laws

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Yeah it’s our first year owning home so now that she is aware I’m wondering how she can bring this up to MIL….also like how does anyone just think it’s ok to stay at someone’s house for 2 weeks at a time.

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Dude I feel you 1000%. Maybe it’s a cultural thing? And people just don’t know personal space unfortunately. It’s tough to set those boundaries with family, but it’s necessary

I would schedule something one week after her arrival date, or however long you want her to stay, then she can only stay for that long.

How far away does MIL live? Why 2 weeks? I get it if they are coming from overseas or something but if she lives closer- no way. Can you put her up in a nice hotel close by for one of those weeks?

Or better yet- week 1 is everyone together. Week 2- you two leave her with the kids at your house and go on your own trip. 😏

Not far 1.5-2 hour flight. No idea why 2 weeks…There’s always something to stay for whether it’s a bday wedding or a holiday. Always something. Don’t think a hotel is gonna fly.

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