My friend’s ex is trying to win her back and she hates being single and like I ~should~ discourage this, but on a selfish level I want to be able to go out on his boat again this summer. He’s not a particularly horrible guy, but they’re a bad match when it comes to values/goals, which is why it didn’t work out the last time.

To those who divorced or called off the engagement, did you take the ring back? And if so, what did you do with it?

My two young toddlers are home from daycare for the next 1.5 weeks for the holidays, and I have off work to watch them. It’s only been 2 days, and I’m so exhausted that I’m counting down the days until I go back to work and they are in daycare. Does anyone have any tips for enjoying this time? I love my kids so much, but how do SAHMs do this every day? I’m so drained already, and I have no patience left…

Poll on general attitudes towards open relationships? I’m in one and find that some folks are totally non-judgmental about it, while others are so vicious/rude about it. Curious about your opinions! I understand that every open relationship is different, and each couple defines their own arrangement/rules. For context, ours is a passive one that’s hardly acted on, but we both have Grindr and meet guys for fun on the very odd occasion (whether together or apart). If you’re in one, describe yours!

Does anyone have feedback or recommendations on robo cleaners in India? Thinking is sending one to family. With lockdown mom getting tired of cleaning by herself.

Anyone have situational depression? Can’t stop beating myself up over a decision a year ago. Basically missed out on a massive amount of money. I know this seems trite and i never even cared thatt much about money before this year.

So many other good things happened to me this year - got married, got a puppy, moved etc, and yet the one thing i keep returning to is this decision as though i ruined my life. Ironically the only thing ruining my life is my outlook and yet i just can’t stop.

Anyone here adopt a puppy during the infertility struggle? Husband and I considering it to have something positive throughout this situation and thinking the extra companionship would be helpful. I work from home. Husband has had many family dogs and lots of experience with it, I’ve had a family cat before. But not sure if it’s actually a good idea - wondering if it would truly help make us feel better and keep our minds off of the struggles or if it would just add extra stress. Thoughts?

Everyone likes me because I'm a doormat with no boundaries. I do anything and say anything to make people happy. I will think what you think I should think. Will you be my friend?

My SO recently lateraled to another consultancy and has been really stressed, working late and feeling dejected. Ideas on what I can do to help / provide moral support?

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

The trusts and estates bowl is not very active, so thought I’d post here. We are in the middle of updating our will/trust. We don’t have any close family that could take care of our kids if we died. Our closest friend lives in Brazil. We would love to have her take care of the kids - but don’t know if there is any way around immigration laws to have that happen if she were willing to move to US. My Google searches haven’t turned up an answer.

I just had a student come to me to explain she just came out to her mother and her mother took it horribly. She is talking about sending her away to boarding school. How should I go about addressing.

Parents... please control your children. Screaming kids are awful.

How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

Anyone file for divorce without a lawyer if both parties are consenting? How does it work when you don’t have any joint assets (separate bank accounts, no house) and no kids? Married <5 years

Hi Chicago - just moved here from the UK (via 7 years in Germany) and looking to make some great new friends.

Moved to River North and into trivia nights, most sports, movies etc and would love to find some people open to adding a city newbie to the group!

42m if that matters 🤷🏻‍♂️😁

Haven’t seen bf in over 3 months due to COVID. Lately, he’s been pushing to see me but I don’t feel comfortable because he hasn’t been quarantining. He makes it sound like if I’m not willing to go see him might as well breakup. Any advice?

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

Does anyone feel bad seeing friends when you’re job hunting? Just feel like I don’t deserve a dinner out and will feel bad comparing myself since they are all doing fine.

I’ve 90 min for ELA & 6 kids. I need to teach phonics, curriculum (has 0 phonics), & goals & they need freq. breaks. Admin’s making me use said curric. Any ideas?? Small groups and rotate? TIA!

Hello my desai colleagues! I'm a proper ABCD, I have lived in India for all of 3 years. When I go to visit, I have a hard time connecting with the family members there. Most of my family is in Chennai

One of the worst parental insurance plans. 30% co-pay and that too on such high premium.

M here. Where can I find slim tees with a slightly longer length? Not to the extent of longline tees where it’ll go past my ass but long enough that I don’t have to worry about it turning into a crop top when I raise my arms

Best time sheet system you’ve ever tried in a job?

What big moves/life changes are you guys making in 2020?

What have you found to be some of the keys to scaling succesfully, either in a business or a product or dept?

Should those of us who write code be taking a moral/ethical responsibility for what the code is used for?

Does anyone mind looking over my resume and giving some feedback?

Does anyone want to be my M&A coach? Will pay.

I have an exam voucher for AWS CCP, it's valid till December 2022. Anyone looking to buy please let me know. I can give it for a little bit lesser price also

I am a physician with extensive informatics background and experience. Eventually, I would to be in a position similar to a CMIO. Any advise on next steps? Anyone looking for a CMIO or ACIO?

Anyone who’s started on their essays - how have you gone about brainstorming, especially for the more personal essay prompts? E.g., what matters most to you and why, when do you feel most alive, etc.

$$$$ to Booth or $$ to Wharton

I don’t play with options much, but I happened to buy VERU calls for 2/19 a little while ago and now it’s skyrocketing, it’s up over $1k for me- will it keep going up? Should I just take the profits now and be happy?

What are some good gyms in the city? I like to do a mix of cardio and strength, a pool would be nice but not a must.

Maybe I’m just realizing I’m lazy… but do y’all ever get assigned an actual, hard research or drafting project and realize you don’t like the effort? Like plz let me go back to doc review.

I lateraled into a niche practice group in Sept 2021. I also have a 1 year old and have been mostly remote since I started - but have been keeping busy tracking towards 2400-2500 hours. That said getting to know people only remote has been kind of awkward at times (email only can be tough to decipher) although as a working mom the pros vastly outweigh the cons. Yesterday my main partner asked me to come in Thursday bc he will be there and set a time to meet. Is this good/bad?? kind of nervous!

Anyone in Vancouver want a Programmer Analyst role doing data conversion from Oracle into WD? UBC is a great employer that pays well for Vancouver / Canada and the work is remote, though you have to be in Canada. 4 weeks vacation and benefits start on day 1

I get depressed and irritated most jobs I work for at the 3 month mark..:

I started a new job a month ago and that just so happened to be when my birth control decided to screw with my emotions. I can barely hold it together already and I have the added stress of a new job and it being busy season. I don’t know what to do. I cry multiple times daily. I don’t know how to keep going.

LinkedIn is a garbage app where I can’t even post my opinion or experience because it will go against the mainstream ideologies. If I even “like” a post then I worry that my peers and managers see what I like and suddenly I need inclusivity training. What a load of shit! You can’t be who you truly are on that app. Which is why I like fishbowl so much, the anonymity is a game changer. If LinkedIn was a anonymous, we’d see a lot more support for Kanye and a lot less LGBQT material. Bet!

I don’t understand the whole “sending love and hugs” thing people say. Does anyone actually feel the love when they read that?

Took PM robitussin instead of DM 🤦 mad tired right now..😴

I've been almost 3 years in my previous company and never have I ever tasted any raise from them. I got transferred to different accounts and LOB it was so exhausting and finally when I decided to leave and send my resignation my Supervisor be like "you know you should be thankful of your job" To be honest the job was very stressful and supervisor at some point is somehow toxic but thankful I get to take my leave.

Mother’s Day gift ideas?

After ~20-30 min on a call, I stop paying attention.

I used to see people who didn't care about current events or politics as intellectually lazy and irresponsible.

However, I feel burnt out on the constant stream of divisive bickering and toxicity.

It feels like ideas don't matter and pragmatism has become a dirty word for both sides.

For the first time in my life, I don't want to know what's happening in the world and I don't care who wins.

Apathy feels good right now.

Women… how in the hell do you type in those acrylic nails??? I just got my first set and it’s so damn hard!

One of my average looking friend was complaining that they are tired of dating ugly people.

My career goal isn’t to make it to MBB or a unicorn or FAANG. It’s to feel fulfilled and challenged as I progress. I can’t be the only one that isn’t title or company chasing.

Guys I had a terrible nightmare this morning. Apparently I saw two middle aged men burning alive in a hotel room. And then I woke up.
Too much game of thrones or is there some meaning to this lol

I don’t feel sorry for FAANG / Big tech workers They ll be ok right ? Haha

I hate going to the Apple Store nowadays.

I’m hoping my anti-depressants will help give me a kick to start looking for a new job. I honestly don’t have anything else left and I’m still sad.

Every night for like the past month I’ve been getting incredibly emotional about adulthood. I miss the lack of responsibility, the simplicity of life, friends were always around, and less pressure to be successful.

I’m 3 years out of college now so it’s not like I just started doing this stuff, but I am feeling the exact same feeling as I did when I first started work and just wanted to be back in college. I know I just need to grow up and accept that’s how life is but it’s incredibly upsetting

Why are some people willing to do anything / obsessed about getting the green card in the U.S.?

When I asked them, they usually say they like American lifestyle. I love lifestyle in France, but I was in France, I was OK if I can't stay. Just trying to understand here so that I can have more empathy.