My husband's job interview today via Zoom (which I overheard since I was in the room beside his office) made me realize something. He mentioned we're having a baby in September, and this probably helped him look good to the interviewer. If I said it, I'd be rejected. It's so messed up how pregnancy is a good thing for men's careers, but a problem for women's. Is this an accurate perception? Btw, I've had my job for years before this pregnancy, so we're fine.

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Yeah. Good observation-There are studies confirming this phenomenon. Check out the “fatherhood bonus.”

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Yep! Also after having a baby it's the constant struggle of wanting to be good both at home and at work, and never feeling like you're doing your best at either. Also if you take a career break, you feel guilty with that choice too. It's hard to win as a mom

How would it help him look good?

It makes men look responsible. Getting married can also help a man’s career in that it shows him as more responsible and reliable.

Somehow though it translates to ‘oh look he’s responsible!’ for men, but for women it’s ’oh look, she’s going to be responsible for those kids which will likely affect her work’. Very much a double standard.

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