My manager is a pro in gaslighting and bullying. I am kinda impressed

I'm feeling a lot of anger towards my manager (now he's acting normal but there were moments where he was condescending/dismissive/mocked my and others work/arrogant/said stuff was "wrong" constantly/belittling the difficulty of tasks etc. in the past project).
Maybe it is "standard chewing out" but it bothered me a lot. So much that I find myself still getting all fired up inside thinking about it...
Idk how to let go of this :/ Thoughts?

🐠 in Bay Area Tech/Prod companies: Do you generally experience that the tech folks just don’t respect the non tech ones? There is this general mindset that I will not respect you or care for what you have to say unless you code better than I do? How do you navigate this?

My manager asked me to help sprint this proposal. I’m out in 6 weeks. How do I kindly tell him to GTFO

Men’s style question: what type of shirts should I get? Oxford vs. poplin, button collar vs spread? My office is pretty casual. I mostly wear Lululemon pants or jeans and white sneakers. I never wear a tie.

I get really giggly when I’m nervous, and laugh at basically everything anyone says. It makes me appear quite immature in front of client & coworkers... Any tips on how to calm my nerves?

I am fed up of my people lead/supervisor
Gives unrealistic deadlines, has no time for discussion and next day he is up with his nagging behaviour

Doesnt even know how to talk in a certain professional manner, fed up with his nagging behaviour.

And yeah forgets everything! Need to remind him each and everytime about the tasks and boom, then he comes up with his negative demotivating statements!

Anyone else have a formatting pet peeve and get annoyed when people don’t have a blank first column and row in tabs? I.e headers/data in cell A1

My first manager told me this, and I’ve followed it to a T since.

Just started a new job a couple of weeks ago and also today found out my wife's pregnant. When is an appropriate time to tell my new boss? Company policy asks for 3 months notice but it's a growing startup. What does everyone think is appropriate?

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

A client is discreetly asking me if I can join them as an employee. Should I report this to my manager? If I take up this offer will there be any repercussions?

What are some essential travel items to request for Christmas/Birthday from family? Also, any recommendations on a good, sturdy, cute briefcase for women?

I have a CD that gets extremely flustered when you ask them for their opinion on a solution. For example after showing them multiple color pallets and CD not quite liking any of them (real Goldie locks moment) i suggested why not we do (fill in three colors here), the CD freezes up and gets annoyed because they don’t want to say yes or no without seeing it in front of them. Working on tight turn arounds and a cd who is too busy for meetings it proving tough with remote working. Any tips?

Hi everyone, have a noob question here. When did you share the pregnancy news with your employer? Not sure when it’s optimal to do that. :)

Anything wrong with using a suit jacket as a sport coat? Found a couple jackets (suit separates) that look good. I don’t wear my suit jackets without the pants though.

Two people on my team of four quit today. I am now the most senior person, with just over one year of experience. Wtf.

How do you deal with tech-illiterate colleagues? A partner and a couple associates at my firm are so out-of-touch with tech and they're always asking me for help. I want to be helpful, but I also have actual work to get done.

My fellow ADHD professionals,
Have you told your employer about your ADHD diagnosis? If you have then how have it benefited you? If you haven’t then why do you think it was the right move not to tell? I’m contemplating if I should tell my employer or not.

Any thoughts on post-season moves for your team? I'm personally really pissed that the Canes are letting Niederreiter talk to other teams. He's a huge part of the team's success and I'm stunned.

I just found out a new colleague was brought on at 20% higher salary than my current salary. (Have been w/ firm 1.5 years) She doesn’t have a 4-year degree (working on it). How do I bring this inequity up and ask to be compensated equally? I have years more experience and My work is more complex - she is basically a receptionist. Any suggestions would be helpful!

anyone wearing nosepin while going office ?

I have significant equity in a property (300k+) and maybe another 200k across other properties. I have a decent amount of money in cash and already 200k or so in stocks. Would you consider pulling money through cash out refi and using it? I get nervous for stocks being so high. I have a few properties in pipeline already. How would you suggest using it (if at all).

I’m looking to change careers, I have a lot of experience in several positions which makes my resume, well tough. Anyone have any recommendations for a recruiter to help assist me in finding my new career?!

Is it just me or do your white corporate colleagues act almost scared of you and unsure how to interact? I’m a medium sized woman, polite, introverted. Makes no sense

Best shops/brands for belts? Both budget-friendly and higher end would be helpful. Do you just buy at same place you buy shoes? Many thanks!

Any recs for undershirt brands? Looking for beige deep Vs, so that the shirt doesn’t show

Top agencies to complete an internship in Detroit area?

I am meeting my girlfriend’s parents for the first time this weekend for dinner at a pretty nice restaurant. Her parents are fairly traditional Chinese mom and dad and I am not Chinese, or Asian for that matter… I don’t want to show up empty-handed - any ideas on good gifts for first time meeting Chinese parents?

Anyone tempted by joining a start up in London. What would you look for?

What's the salary range for D2 - Program Manager position in CG??

Hello Fishes,

Need 11 likes to enable Chat. Please help

Anyone know if AWS level 7 is a match for Accenture CL4? Is AWS level 7 really a senior manager?

How do you navigate getting/facilitating full time offers?
I am an incoming senior currently interning with Abbott. My goal is to have at least two full time offers. I have another interview coming up this week at a different company. I suspect that pay will be similar (Glassdoor and industry knowledge). If I don’t have an offer from the other company, what is the best way to postpone accepting from Abbott until I have salary leverage?

any insight into entry level planning/procurement salaries

If I don’t have kids but I’m divorced. Can I still be part of this bowl?

Hi Fishes anyone here working in ADDA project

As LTI is giving posting to people in Kolkata recently, can someone tell if good projects are present there? Is there any onsite opportunity as well?

Anyone ever lost their passport? I lost mine in transit. I am abroad and entered new country. When I got to the counter to show my passport for entry I couldn't find it anywhere. I am currently sitting and waiting as they are deliberating . Any advice would be great.

What does bench life look like for you?
For me a typical day looks like this
9 am- sign in and check emails
930-11 : look for a new job
11-2 lunch and nap
2-3 : sometimes meetings, mostly begging people for billable work
3-4:30 - proposal work if I have it or more job hunting
5-9pm family time and dinner
10-3am - netflix, videogames, cry myself to sleep

What do you think it takes for a PPD to get a utilization bearing WBS for proposal work? I know it is rare...

Any recs for CIPM study books?

Spring forward sucks.

Someone reached out to me on LinkedIn about becoming an author on the side. Has anyone heard about such a thing?!? The person said she’s worked with 800 consultants writing their books and marketing it for them.

What's a good salary in CH for a Big4 for a Manager position? What benefits can be included?

Beside toastmasters, what are other ways to improve communication and public speaking skills? Books, podcasts...?

Best consulting companies with exposure to the blockchain / digital assets space?

Would a failed PIP still pay severance at Big 4? If so, how is severance calculated?

Planning to do a PRM or FRM qual. How useful is it to move from Big 4 Risk and reg consulting to industry? Finding it hard to get anything other than non-PM roles

Homeowners in India - do you get any tax benefit in the US for your mortgage in India?

Any good books/learning materials on how consulting/non-product firms acquire other firms? Struggling to find relevant info. “Talent-based acquisitions” seem to be all about hr/recruiting. What are alternative keywords I should use?

I’m currently in ERP and really want to get into cloud. Currently hold the Azure Fundamentals, AWS SAA, and GCP security certs. Any suggestions on what I can do to increase my chance to get into cloud?

How do I check my utilization?

Any idea why EY is not on the list of Vault 50 top consulting firms but it is on the prestigious list?

Where in the world is Slalom? 🤔

Any book recommendations about human psychology / thought processes?

Fellow EY 🐟. I left EY recently after two happy years there. How can I get the pension money back? I had around $1500 there and they are not able to help in EY-HELP3.
Can I at least do a rollover to an IRA?