My spouse is dealing with a terrible manager, MIA skip level, a very negative work environment and is thinking of quitting without another job lined up. I want to be supportive but being a single income household is tough. Any words of advice?

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If you live in the us you will surprised how difficult it is to find a new job right now. Plan for 8-12 months of looking full time.

Also find out how much you private insurance will cost because if you quit, you’ll be paying that whole bill each month.

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In Europe actually, so health insurance is a non-issue

Encourage them to start looking now. A tough manager sucks, but I agree about single income being really difficult right now. It also depends a lot on their industry. I'm looking for a job and have been for a few months and I'm not getting a lot of traction.

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Yea I told them that today. I think they’re going to get a week or two off to game plan, but I think starting the job hunt asap is a good idea. Thanks!

I was in the exact position of your spouse and what helped is to know my partner was willing to support me even if that meant me quitting without another job lined up. I never ended up doing it because I didn't want my partner to feel the financial burden but it helped me feel so much more supported in such a stressful situation to know my spouse was willing to do that for me.

The best thing you can do is let know you support them no matter what. It's also okay to encourage them to look elsewhere during this time and help them job search.

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Your partner sounds great! Thank you for sharing this, I can feel how genuine this comment was through the keys. Much appreciated!

I would help him, refine his résumé and help him look like hell for a job!

That’s for sure!

I've been trying to find a position for almost eight months. However, if he is a product manager. I have some connections. What market area are you in?

I would like to chat as well if that’s ok.

Tell them to reach out to their contacts. Nowadays one has to get in through a referral. See if you have any contacts that can help out as well

We will definitely leverage all of our contacts, thanks for the tip

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100% agree with the others - they should definitely update their resume, LinkedIn profile & start actively applying on all the job boards. BUT. Having been in your spouse’s situation, mental health is so important. If the situation is so toxic it impacts their productivity & mental health, it may be in their best interest to resign. If they get fired, they may resent you. Can your marriage handle that? If they get fired, you will lose the income anyway. At least if they give notice they keep their integrity & leave with some dignity.

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