New Holiday news: Wife just surprised me with the news that we’re expecting baby 2. Currently have a 1.5yr old…and in the middle of a career change. 2024 shaping out to be a NEW year for sure!

To all my 2-kid dads: open to any and all daddy success advice. Haha

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Congratulations, it will be a night and day difference versus just 1.

There is the saying:

1st is always for the parents, 2nd is for the 1st to grow up with.

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The new baby will be no problem as you will know what you are doing this time.
The toddler will be the one keeping you busy.

Tell the older one about the baby and get them involved. Try to create a sibling relationship so they get used to the new baby faster. Some siblings struggle initially with the lack of attention but they all get there.

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You’re going from a double team to a man-to-man defense (and occasionally a two on one breakaway). Start stretching and get your sleep now.

- father of 3 (it’s a lot of fun, mostly)

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The emotional stuff is easier, but the amount of work basically doubles. Same for third. Have heard 4 and beyond has some economy of scale.
We have three.

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Congrats!! Only have one so no advice here… just good luck!

Congratulations!!!

You did it

You already started your career change, so you’ll be fine by the time the 2nd comes. If not already, help out more with the first. Begin saving a bit for the increase in daycare costs if money is tight. I’m about 6 weeks in and really enjoying it the second time around than the first, so look forward to that!

I got the same age diff. 13 months girl and 3.5 old boy. Make sure the older kid is sleep trained and their routine is on lock. The older kid needs to feel involved bc they will easily feel neglected and you might find some slight regressing from the eldest in an attempt to remain the baby.

But usually the younger kid learns stuff quicker and they’re being put into an existing system so you’ll find some things will be easier. But also you don’t know how the new kid will operate. So keep an open mind and congrats to your new addition.

Number 2 adds a lot of complexity and new learning but you made it this far successfully with the first so you can learn what you need to for number 2.

It’s not a harder curve than the first but it’s more net new than we imaged as every kid is more different than most expect. Also 2 on different schedules adds complexity. Like the first though it will be fine and having 2 kids that play together later on is awesome.

Man, these comments didn’t help lighten the blow. Lol. Solid advice tho. This is about to be a ride.

I’m in the thick of it now with two under two. It’s awesome, but can be frustrating at times. You’re going to be fine and they’re going to be great!

My second was born this year. The baby is so cute! My toddler really loves her new brother. Everything else sucks. Advice? Don’t forget about #1’s emotional needs

Congrats and yes. My advice is to exit consulting. It’s not conducive to family life.

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