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I’m so sorry OP. Does he know you know? Suggest seeking therapy or someone you can talk to/lean on. Don’t feel like you have to make any hard decisions now. You’ll likely go through several thousand feelings in the short and long term. Sending you lots of love ❤️
Yes, he knows. this whole experience is so alienating because I don’t want to talk to family or friends about it. I think speaking to a professional is the only way to move forward. ❤️
This exact thing happened to a friend of mine recently. My suggestion is to try to talk about it with the people you are closest to and you may find out that others have similar stories. I had a situation with my spouse where trust was broken and I find myself easily triggered and paranoid still (7 years later). I agree to seek therapy and get some coping strategies. It is normal to feel paranoid and angry and distrustful, but for your own well-being, if you decide to stay, work on making peace with it all. The anger/paranoia is an unfair burden to carry, but I promise you can push through. Just give yourself time.
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Same response as above. No matter what you decide, I hope you can find someone to confide in. ❤️❤️❤️
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I agree with everything that’s already been mentioned except having to address the other person. Your husband is the one who made a vow and broke said vows, not the other woman who doesn’t have any commitment to you.
We can’t control every environment and interaction that our partners have; however, it is their responsibility to disengage and avoid scenarios that are tempting and ultimately lead to infidelity.
Sending you hugs and lots of positive vibes. I too am struggling with trusting my husband after past incidents of inappropriate behaviors and now we have a child, but I don’t know if the trust will ever be as strong or if I’ll always question him.
Regardless if they did sleep together it’s killing me that this person is someone that he still sees everyday. We have a 2 year old so I’m compelled to work on our relationship for her but slowly loosing my mind to paranoia...
I’m sorry you are going through this. It definitely makes it harder with a small child involved. I would feel the same way as you and it would kill me that they still work together. I don’t know if this is the right advice, but I usually find that it can be therapeutic to address things head on, otherwise we tend to fill in the unknowns with our own ideas of what may be happening, which just adds to the internal isolation and stress. So I would maybe do the following; address the other person head on. She knows he is married I would assume. I would definitely talk to her to get an understanding of why and what was going on. Especially if you feel your husband may not be telling the full story. She may lie of course, but I don’t know if it’s be helpful for you to address her. She may also need to understand you are a real person and a real family and she deserves to feel like shit about it. Of course your husband is the real issue here, and agree with others on individual and couples counseling. You shouldn’t go through this alone and carry the burden solo. Finally, you know the most important thing is your child. They are blessings that show you what life is all about. Continue being happy for her/him. Show them what love is about and move forward with creating beautiful memories with you and your child while you figure out how to get through this. Good luck to you ❤️