I’ve been single for so long my last ex had time to find someone else, get pregnant, have a baby and now they’re engaged. And I’m sitting here watching Footloose

EY 🐠 - potentially starting with the firm soon, and my partner is due to have our first in April. Given the 1 year service requirement for leave, would I have the option to take PTO during birth and use parental leave after my 1 year of service? Appreciate any guidance here

I used to be so devoted to my academics that I kind of forgot to make some close friends. How do you reignite your social life after college?

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

Female 🐠 - if your husband has mostly non-muslim friends, is that a problem?

I want to open a Roth IRA for my mother (55). She makes about $9k from an international job and doesn’t file a U.S. tax return. How does the government check if I find it with the maximum of $7k?

it’s been 3 years in this city and I really need to hang out with someone other than my boyfriend. But I’m terrible at “networking"

Oh no they’re doing a Subservient Chicken for Baby Nut on Twitter

Anyone have situational depression? Can’t stop beating myself up over a decision a year ago. Basically missed out on a massive amount of money. I know this seems trite and i never even cared thatt much about money before this year.

So many other good things happened to me this year - got married, got a puppy, moved etc, and yet the one thing i keep returning to is this decision as though i ruined my life. Ironically the only thing ruining my life is my outlook and yet i just can’t stop.

Just found out that my favorite aunt, who claimed I was her “favorite” niece, chose to leave all her valuables to her other two nieces who never visited or called her once in the last ten years. My aunt passed away suffering from cancer last year and didn’t have her own kids. I was there by her side throughout her battle. I still wish I had done more, made her life easier. I probably sound petty, but a part of me is forcing me to re-evaluate every interaction I ever had with her.

When my parents call I don’t answer and call back 4 hours later. I tell them I’m busy but I’m just hanging out here in FB, playing ps5 or online shopping.

Sometimes when my spouse snores i’l flick them real hard and they will wake up panicked and I’ll say “ are you okay? It was just a dream a bad dream...shhh just sleep” and then they will calm down and fall back asleep with less of a snore 🥴

Working as a Business analyst in BFSI for last 10 years. ( Married, have a kid)
What should be the next step
Current options I thought-
1. Planning for a switch ( but ye shayad chalta rahega)
2. Planning for a good certification- did SAFE product owner and all but kuch khas nai hai
3. Planning for a PHD ( part time ) not sure, not clear may be a good option as I can move to education line.
What else guys
Serious answers 🙏🙏
Any senior who can help

How do people make friends here? I have the ones i grew up with and a couple I made in the last couple of years (neighbors/through mutual friends) but I generally find that people here just stick with their social circles

I think it’s over with my SO of 3 years. He tells me he loves me and wants to work things through but has lied to me several times in the past - some which were the same mistake three times. He knows he needs professional help (he’s also on antidepressants and has PTSD) but I don’t know how I can trust him again. Feeling completely broken - cannot believe the situation we’re in. I’m so sad my heart is breaking and I don’t know what to do

Ok, I’m gonna say this. Schools should open. Now hear me out. My wife is a family doctor, she is working insane hours, she is treating covid patients, and there is a lot of days when she has to stay at the hospital without coming home. My neighbour works in a local grocery store, so he has been at work since the Day 1 of lockdown. So if you need medical help, or want to eat, it’s ok for those people to be at work, but their kids have to stay home? Cont’d >>

Obesity is a chronic disease not a choice and it should be treated as such.
By both “body positivity” challengers who too often say obesity comes from laziness and lack of strong will and by obese people who also too often shield themselves stating “this is how I am, it is impossible to change it” when in fact they do not want to accept that fat is literally killing them.
Thoughts?

Any suggestions on things to do in LA? Taking my underage sister this upcoming weekend for a visit

Anyone stuck in an unhappy marriage? How do you deal with loneliness of this profession and complicated family life

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

CD in Detroit ? Any idea?

I’m making 55k in Chicago. Am I underpaid?

Experiential Marketing position, remote w/ some travel and 5 years of experience. Any idea of salary range?

Done with technical round, HR round and also background verification. And got a call from HR for negotiation. But till now not received offer letter. It's been two weeks. Is it always like this in tech Mahindra?? Or should I consider I won't be getting any call back.

I work as a Solution Specialist (sales rep) at an Authorizer Verizon retailer. Phone/wireless sales is not something I want to do forever. I have 4 years mobile sales experience and 3 additional years of niche sales/ customer service experience. I’m feeling stuck and every career/job move fells it is a step backwards. Does anybody have any advice on how to power through this or what other routs I could go?

Hey you guys! can somebody please help me answer these questions!

1. WonderWorks wants to increase hospitality sales by 25% in the next year. What are some sales and marketing strategies you would use to increase sales with our corporate partners? Outline a variety of paid and organic tactics you would use, indicating any potential costs that may accrue in your plan.

What’s a fair salary increase after a year of inflation?

Does anyone need a zero trust architecture environment mandated by the federal government. I can help.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

What’s average salary in ID firm mid size (NY) about 350 attorneys ? Class of 2019 but was in public sector (criminal law) for 2 years! 2000 billable hours minimum

I am going to India for a month. May have to change my return date. Any suggestion on what insurance/other option to reduce the ticket update cost impact.

Hi fishes,

I got progression and now I am a S3 in EY GDS, Financial Risk Team. Bangalore

As S3 is also internally called as AM level, how much salary hike can i expect? I got EC as rating this year and have 5 years of experience.

Current salary 8LPA Fixed.

Thanks!

Anyone in here use an MBA to pivot into Product Management? If so, did you intern at big tech?

Hey Fishes,

Can anyone give me referral ?

Thanks!

Hey Fishes,
Been working at D India as a Manager (Not USI) for past few months.
Ask me anything as there are very few reviews available online.
To clear few misconceptions
1. Global projects are available here
2. They've started mentioning Bonus, Gratuity amount etc in offer letter
3. Work life balance depends on Project and managers you work with
4. Inside opportunities if you're the creamy layer
5. PF amount in offer letter is the total deduction and not just company's contri

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BLUE YONDER OR EY INDIA Where to join? My priority are work life balance, self growth. Salary is same for both. Genuine suggestion needed.

How is the WLB in Clairvoyant - an EXL company?

Just found out I’m getting laid off in two weeks. How do I stay motivated to do work until then?

Book recommendations, fishies? Looking for something light, but intellectually engaging—a satire, maybe? Or anything really engrossing! Please help ya chiefy, thank youuuu🤗😘

I find one of my clients breathtakingly gorgeous. I'm married so would never act on it, but it's noticeable enough to impact my behavior. I.e. this person doesn't have a ton of budget to spend with me, but I find myself going out of my way to help them because just wow

My confession is I have always had very competetive and hardworking close friends around me with whom I felt amazing to compete, do more and be the best. A few years back we all made to different countries, now I achieve far less than my potential and find it hard to be as efficient as before. How to fix this?

Is it a red flag if someone says they don’t believe in self help books like Atomic Habits, Attached, etc?

My career goal isn’t to make it to MBB or a unicorn or FAANG. It’s to feel fulfilled and challenged as I progress. I can’t be the only one that isn’t title or company chasing.

Why is drinking and getting drunk the “fun” traits but staying home to chill is “boring”? I must be in the wrong era 🥺

Why are some people willing to do anything / obsessed about getting the green card in the U.S.?

When I asked them, they usually say they like American lifestyle. I love lifestyle in France, but I was in France, I was OK if I can't stay. Just trying to understand here so that I can have more empathy.

What do consultants do? I see Consultant titles pop up on here all the time and wonder what do y’all do? What are you consulting on? Seems interesting but i I googled and am still confused.

About to start a side hustle writing smut for Amazon, who's got some story prompts for me?

@ PE folks, do you think it’s weird if a new member of your Big Law team of lawyers sends you a LinkedIn request as soon as she starts working with you? Is it less weird if I wait?

(The confession is that I eventually want to go in-house at this PE firm, so I want them to like me 😅)

Just spent 15 minutes buying a flight on the jet blue app... is there software really that slow?

Woman approaching 40, dated once, LTR once and heartbroken by 32 as I found the man in LTR was cheating on me. Shut my heart completely to ensure never give anyone the power to hurt me. Today I wake up and see years have passed. I have checked off many bucketlist items being single for these years including solo euro trip. But now I feel I can’t go on forever. I just wish I had someone to plant a good morning kiss, like simple things in life. Hard to share these feelings, hence confessing

I'm not hearing enough about Miya Marcano from the media

Is it common to get more and more conservative after highschool? Throughout high school I considered myself a leftist even at one point liking Bernie. But now over time I see myself getting more conservative. ( Not the anti mask/ anti vax kind) I seem to align myself more and more with individuals like Romney. Is this common?

I dont understand why there is such a labor shortage. Especially with corporate private sphere jobs that tend to pay well.

If you work at McDonald's and the government will pay you more to not work, I get it. But not higher caliber jobs.

The man I love is now married to someone else. He was my best friend since university (were now in early 30s), we never pursued anything romantically (was too scared to tell him) and now he’s married to someone else and they have a baby girl. I went to see them and they have this perfect home and family. His wife is perfect, pretty & young and smart. I’m still single. I want to be happy for him but I was so jealous and sad and felt like crap. I can never tell him. Just had to let it out. :((

Sibling has no self-control. Covid has brought out the worst in him. He constantly stays inside his bedroom, sometimes for days at an end. Works from his bedroom, plays video games in free time, orders food & eats in his bedroom. Is not motivated to do anything or interact with anyone. These tendencies existed before pandemic but has gotten significantly worse during. Any suggestions on how to help him

Beer is now cheaper than gas. Drink more, drive less 🤧

As a man are you looking for an extremely successful lady that is extremely career driven and willing to do whatever it takes to make it to the next level or are you more attracted to a lady that is happy at the level she is at and takes the next step as it comes? To put things into simple terms would you rather a 9-5 lady or a 9- whenever the job is done lady? Explain why please.