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29/male here - Moving will not fix your dating problems (from personal experience). Fine to move for other reasons but I’d encourage you to think about what other obstacles you may have keeping you from meeting the right person. Perhaps certain criteria is not working.
Practicing more open mindedness and going to therapy helped me meet someone serious recently (4 months in!)
NYC is way better IMHO:
- everyone has aspirations,
- commuting is not crazy (imagine dating a Mountain View guy when you live in downtown SF) and unlike the SF / Bay area people don't spend hours in the day commuting,
- plus there are more fun gay things to do in NYC.
You only would need to adjust to the weather. There's nothing shallow about moving to a city for the dating pool, we got needs hunny.
Um, the bums in NYC don’t shit in the streets at high noon, just sayin (they shit in the subway lol)... I lived in Texas all my life too - been in NYC for 10 years, was supposed to move to SF for work to build out the practice - life changes prevented that and I am happy it did, the energy in NYC is amazing. There are two types of people, those that love NYC and those that hate NYC, come visit a few times and stay a weekend and find out which one you are - if you love it, don’t move to SF. :)
Idk man, as someone who moved to a city where I knew no one, it was harder than I thought, socially. I eventually established myself, but it took many months. Don't undervalue the power of already having friends and connections in the city - can hit the ground running socially
Those Dominican boys 😍
NYC is also more diverse, you'll have more luck if you're black on the east coast in my experience vs the Bay. Probably fine if you're Asian unsure how it is if you are Latin. Figured this was worth calling out since it can play a role in your experience.
Currently in Austin. I know it’s the best city in TX for an LGBT person.
90% of the guys I see on dating apps here don’t have the same career aspirations/goals as I do... and I feel like SF/NYC would have a better “talent” pool. I feel very shallow writing this wow.
I think in Dallas you’ll find a lot less aspiration though if that’s what you’re looking for. It definitely a huge “partying” scene in the gay front. Same with New York—the gays are looking for next best thing and people there don’t tend to settle down early.
I just moved from Austin after 4 years and it’s definitely possible, you just have to give it time. I’ve found that the relationships I was in just happened naturally and when I least expected rather than consciously seeking them out through an app.
I would recommend Chicago if you are open to other cities than just SF and NYC.
I would think very carefully about why else moving might be beneficial. Moving purely to improve your dating life seems very risky. If you’re only looking for guys on dating apps I think you’re likely to run into similar problems anywhere. And I say this as someone who has lived in a few major cities in both us and uk
I live in Houston. Pretty good dating pool imo. There are plenty of nice gays in every big city, and the apps help you find them.
Which city in Texas?
Where in TX? NYC is great. Wouldn’t move to a city because you find it hard dating though.
You can hook up more in NYC but if you want a relationship it’s probably not the place
Move to Dallas
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