Should I break up with my girlfriend? We have been dating for close to 2 years and there are some things that have irked me (her lack of care around finances, talks about her exes, super insecure about her looks (complained to me when she was drunk last Friday how no guys bought her drinks, I wasn’t there), has a terrible relationship with her mom and dad and gets upset when I go out for the weekend to hangout with my mom (father died horribly last year and she has been alone). To be continued.

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I have had that was the ex’s, it is super weird, like why. The bar thing is also a red flag. The parents is normal, good parent child relationships are overrated.

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Lack of care around finances is big. That's your future right there, too, one day.

How does she talk about her exes? I've definitely spoken about exes, but more about why things didn't work out. Not comparisons.

I would be annoyed if a guy constantly told me he was unattractive even while dating him.

The bar and no drinks from guys - NO. This to me is too far. Why do you need the attention of other guys when she is in a relationship with you? Huge insecurity.

What kind of relationship with her parents? Occasional arguments is okay. But if they don't talk or every single remark is bad, then that's bad.

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This relationship doesn’t sound promising.

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Just a thought, maybe try communicating this with her. You’ve been dating for 2 years, you should be able to talk through these issues (and if you can’t, then you should break up)

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Thanks, she has been communicating with me on what she dislikes, but I haven’t been the same (first relationship, and have been hyper focused on my career lately).

Dump her

In regards to the lack of care in finances, she has 3k in cc debt and she is constantly talking about buying more furniture for my apartment (granted there is much to be improved on it), she has been working hard to get a new job, I enjoy spending time with her (cooking, watching homeland, being goofballs), I feel like she understands me, she makes me feel happy and fuzzy on the inside, I love her friends (they are fun to hangout with and to play board games with), she is super thoughtful, intelligent, and funny. I like her parents, I guess I just hate the materialism portion of her as I’m super minimalist and only want to accrue money so that my future kids can live in a good neighborhood and not worry about taking on debt to go to school.

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