Single F, late 30s and here to vent. Does arranged marriage/ Shaadi.com even work? Tired of all this!I seem to have the worst luck. Ek tho rejection ratio on photo is too high and after a point it is difficult not to take it personally.
And I get dinged by obese men who are balding.
I know everyone has a preference but then I have also been told that beauty is only skin deep (and that only the uglies belive so 😁).
And its not like I am overreaching either. Once this milestone is "cleared",continued..
I feel this. The guys who I match with that fit my filters aren’t guys who I am attracted to. It feels weird and uncomfortable saying it but I my friends say that I am more attractive than them too. I still try to give it a chance and they usually are really nice but I’m still trying to find a solid connection 🤷🏽♀️
My parents had an arranged marriage- went down the drain. My girlfriend's Sister dated a guy for over a decade before getting married- went down the drain.
My uncle got married at 34, his wife was 32. He's Bald, below average height; although beauty is subjective his wife is really pretty. They are one of the happiest couples I know. Profiles on dating platforms are like Partners buttering (wanted to use swear phrases) clients and presenting 1st year analysts as experts. All the best!
I seem to meet all immature/ emotionally unavailable men or men who get into the khaana bananaa/ pooja paath/ number of kids on the first conversation.
I find some of these questions extremely repulsive for any conversation. Content wise, not the manner it is presented in.
Ranging from men that lash out at me for not answering their call on time or saying No, to being ghosted to their mommies calling up my parents to "complain" (your daughter is taking more time, she says she is not religious etc.) I have seen it all. And all these men look good on paper - solid education/work.
I am not looking for fireworks here and find such expectations too "filmi", but even with my low expectations of height, good job and mutual respect (and parents ke expectations for jaath-paath and kundali matching ), I can't "find" anyone.
What gives?
Lol. Shaadi works, but you need to put work into it as well.
Try one date with one of those guys irrespective of their physique, you might be pleasantly surprised. The worst you have to lose is some free time which you'll spend anyway.
Lol true enough, I might've been projecting. I stopped using shaadi. I've known two couples that got married through it.
Hinge might be your to your liking. I see a fair number of desi women for my area at least.
Does Shadi conduct any background checks ? Other than may be a phone number verification lol.
How would you know about the actual background of a person and their family ? Their family history ? How have they actually made money?
I have seen people conveniently faking their Kundlis, marital statuses, and hiding their medical history. These profiles only look good on paper. Save yourself.
There are lesser chances of being duped when you organically meet a person or you have common friends with someone because they are not in a rush to impress, manipulate and entrap you for marriage, unlike shadi. Also your common friends can be honest with you about the person.
Marrying someone in your community is even safer, if you find a good match.
Else, look in your old circles, for school friends, college friends - at least you know them well enough.
True, nothing is fool-proof, you just got to save your time and look in the right places where there are more chances of finding a less shiny but genuine match. Don’t marry a stranger.
I have friends who met on shaadi, very very good friends. and that is what makes me keep trying…