So frustrated 😔 my dating life is non-existence in Chicago... should I move? Been here for 5 years and zero date. I’m a POC, not white.

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There’s tons of POCs doing well on this front. Most people that complain like this are looking for mr perfect...and there’s no such thing. Oh, and btw, most other cities would be much worse than Chicago. Trust!

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Wrong. You should have standards...we all should. Don’t know all the deets of your experiences so can’t really speculate but Chicago is so diverse and there’s something for everyone. It may take time to come together tho...

What have you tried?

Any of the gay sports leagues? Apps? Friends of friends?

As someone that’s moved to multiple new cities, it’s hard but you have to put yourself out there.

See I didn’t know about the sports leagues.. just signed up.

I’m on all apps and I have no luck at all.

My friends are all straight and they don’t have friends to introduce me to.. Since I’m not able to tap into the gay community, I don’t have gay friends.

Being Asian is hard.. 🤦🏻‍♂️ someone said I’ll find someone who’s into me eventually.. that was when I realized that the racism is too real and I had to move out of this place.

Amazon Chicago office is too small..the division here is for the entire Illinois. From the major cities I’ve visited, people were much nicer than Chicago’s. Chicago just single out the Asian group.

You know.. we’re not hung like horse. 🙃

Got pinned to the wall the shame now 😂

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