So supposed to head out of town for a long weekend with friends starting the evening of 4/21. My one friend and her son tested positive for Covid on 4/13 and have been sick. She says she is coming on our trip. On the following Thurs 4/28 I need to spend time with my 92 year old diabetic father. Do I go on this trip? I don’t think my friend has quarantined long enough to be sitting with 6 people driving in a van to our location unmasked as well as in the hotel room. Would you go on this trip?

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How could you feel if you exposed your father and he got sick and passed on. Is that something you can live with for the rest of your life? This is a worst case scenario. But remember you can sleep well without going the trip and maybe do it later when time allows. Choose wisely.

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You need to get some new friends that respect your decision and support you. Not ones who’ll be judgmental and make you feel bad.

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Your friend sounds like a selfish person if she’s not going to take any precautions after a confirmed infection. Given the stakes, I’d sit out the trip since she’s not going to help mitigate the risk to your elderly father.

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Ahh so true. But for me it’s not just her it’s the whole group that doesn’t care. How about they get sick and make others sick? Maybe the one gals pregnant daughter or the mother with cancer. This is why this pandemic lives on!

Has she not gotten covid tested since quarantining? Personally, I feel it to be a bit unfair if she goes and you don't given she is the one with the sickness and would be causing unnecessary stress on others.

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And on top of that the sick person went and had the best massage today based on the text she sent to the trip group….?!? WTF 🤬 did you notify the massage therapist? I know a massage therapist in my neighborhood who died from the Covid she got at work… 🤦‍♀️

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Agree with the comments. I’m fully vaxed and pro common sense (eg: I find ppl wearing masks outside alone with no one anywhere near them, or in their cars alone, to be ridiculous, vaxed or not). While not ideal it’s definitely good judgment to pass on the trip. That or perhaps your friend will “get religion” and pass on the trip.

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Yeah, you’d think. The docs and nurses I know are still very cautious.

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Has she taken at least two COVID tests? I'd ask for her to do that and let her know it's because you will be visiting your father. Hopefully, she understands otherwise I wouldn't go, personally. It's always a risk/reward balancing act.

If the costs of the tests are an issue, maybe tell her you would go half in on the price of the tests?

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She hasn’t indicated she plans to test just that she has to isolate for 5 days and mask for 5 days. So that might means she masks with us, but I don’t see her eating sleeping or drinking with that mask on for the whole trip. If I ask, then I am the bad crazy. Was just hoping she would bow out since she could still be infectious and I could go on a needed get away.

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OP here. Decided to check in with the dept of health. Thought maybe I was missing facts. Despite the fact that the DOH indicated that my friend should not travel and needs to eat 6 feet apart from others and wear an m95 mask. Because my Dad is immune compromised I got the impression that I am, the problem for venturing out of my house and potentially exposing him whether on this trip with my mildly infectious friend or in the population in general even if she were not along. This attitude just really makes me sad 😔 I must be in denial. Hoping we can move on from this soon!

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Well thank you for being conscientious about not impacting others. That’s part of the reason this is not coming to an end. If more people had vigilance about this like your family instead of being like my friend potentially passing it on to her friends and all the others they meet on their travels.

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At 8 days post Covid positive test your friend is probably fine - but the risk / reward on this really doesn’t seem like it supports going. Worst case scenario could be pretty bad for your dad. Sucks that she’s putting you in that situation.

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I don’t think there’s a clear right or wrong answer, but if it’s going to cause you anxiety you aren’t likely to enjoy the trip and/or the visit with your father completely. I’m sure your friends would understand if you missed the trip. Go with your gut. If you, all your friends, and your father is vaccinated you will likely be fine but again, do what feels comfortable to you. At this point, we are all used to having our plans get messed up due to COVID. Hopefully it will only be for a little longer .

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