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If your only value offered is 'provider' then yes, they will not be interested.
If you're attractive, treat them with kindness, are fun to be around, a friend they can depend on, etc. - you will add much more value in their life than just a paycheck which any working man can 'provide'
I’m fascinated by this line of thinking… really makes me wonder how some people view relationships
I'm going to assume you've not had a great example of what a solid relationship looks like. I'm also going to assume based on this comment, that YOU have not had a lot of relationships to test out this theory or learn from. So, let me give you a little insight.
People want to be successful in their own right, many people have a drive in them to get out of a less that desirable situation, some want to simply be BETTER than what they were given- in any capacity.
Career focus and drive has nothing to do with interpersonal relationships- having a partner to do life- a companion- a best friend that shares lifes woes and excitements, a confidante to tell your secrets and goofy thoughts? There is a lot to be said for what you bring to the table- and it's not always money and stability. Sometimes people bring joy and comfort, some bring rule and stability, some bring mental health support through love and affection, some are simply happy to enjoy another persons company with which they have similar visions of life....
All that to say- maybe go into a nursing home or care center. Talk to the old people about love and stability, and figure out what careers and drive have to do with life. It seems like you might need some experience and understanding on the LIFE part.
It’s understandable to wonder about that, but most career-focused women still want meaningful relationships. Financial independence usually just means they’re choosing partners for genuine connection and compatibility, not necessity. In many cases, that actually leads to healthier, more balanced partnerships. Your willingness to question the assumption is a good sign of self-awareness.
Do you want to be NEEDED or WANTED? I prefer to be wanted.
I think some, both men and women, do see it like that, but that’s because they have had so many bad experiences and just gotten jaded. Of course finances play a role, but every person I’ve dated, has always been more interested in what I had to offer through my personality than what I could pay. And I’ve been with people who have been both poorer and richer than me, while I was poor and while I was doing very well, financially.
It can go either way. Some women with money may not feel pressured to be in a relationship because they’re already secure on their own. But having money doesn’t cancel out the desire for real love.
The hard part is figuring out who values you versus who values your bank account. When finances enter the picture, intentions can get blurry. At the end of the day, most people, regardless of income still want something genuine.
This is why I don’t have a man because they see me and prob don’t give me a chance
I think there are both many women and men that feel this way, especially if their social circle is big. But many of those people have a difficult time with true intimacy.