Sometimes I think we exaggerate in our heads how much our colleagues want us to drink as an excuse to drink. “WELL IF I HAVE TO…”
The only people who pressure others to drink are other problem drinkers, just with less self awareness. Your sobriety makes them feel insecure in their drinking.

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For sure. Most of the time it’s curiosity on their end and nothing sinister. I was very put off by people asking me why I didn’t drink at first, but I realized what was causing tension was my own insecurities about my sobriety and past.

Like you said, if someone judges you for not drinking, that’s on them, but I have never experienced a colleague actually pressuring me to drink.

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