Starting to feel depressed and burnt out. Worked 30 hrs already this week, and I have a toddler and 5 mo old that doesn’t sleep through the night. Don’t think FT or reduced schedule will work (cont)

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Hey there - I left EY about 6 months ago. Sort of the same situation. I have two kids and I am the only income, so I couldn't do part time or anything like that. I took an industry job - great beneifts, not as great earning potential, and great interaction with C suite...and it has been the best decision ever. In my first 2-3 months I felt like I had made a mistake with my career, but as the kool-aid wore off, that feeling left. Now I'm not saying to leave, but I am saying that my life is 1000 times better. I've rarely worked more than 40 hours a week. It has been the best thing I've decided to do. My kids mean more than my career. I just never got the help I needed in PA. It was family or job. There is no shame in leaving and it isn't a failure even if you take a lateral position - in my opinion. Good luck!

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We have a 2 yo and another one on the way. This busy season my spouse has been the only one taking care of our child. I am exhausted and feel like failing in all areas.
It's Saturday and they have a full day planned while I'm focusing on my work.
Maybe I can hang on for one more year. Hope to get enough experience to get a good job in industry. It breaks my heart not being there for my family.

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EY1 I’m so glad you posted! I took a senior accountant position after five years at the firm and everyone thinks I’m short sighted for not waiting to make manager or get manager title in industry.

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so time to start looking outside of PA or go seasonal/part-time. I’m in tax. Suggestions?

I’m in the same situation, and to make matters worse there’s a bottleneck at the manager/senior manager level. Feels like it’s impossible to have this career and a family. I’m at a complete loss, need more success stories to keep me going.

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