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I feel like things that happened in my childhood, that I have no control over, cost me my happiness and no matter what I do now, I will never make up for the time and opportunities lost

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Same boat

Feel like I’ve achieved all that I set out to and have very little to look forward to left. Nothing much brings me happiness or fulfillment, the job that once felt like a “end goal” seems like a chore, and I’m envious of friends that find joy in their everyday lives without the voice in their head telling them to be the best of the best and constantly claw towards a new goal in search of fulfillment

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I completely understand. Give yourself grace though - sounds like both you and your SO have very bright futures ahead of you, and you should be proud of all you have accomplished so far!

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Comparision to my peers and what they have versus what I have due to my circumstances

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Yep this one is rough

I think I’m not so depressed when I have something important that I’m working toward.

Having some kind of goal/project/event/etc that I can focus my thoughts and energy on helps lift the feeling of complete disinterest in life/people

I don’t have a focus like that right now, and I just feel lonely and hopeless

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Self esteem issues.

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Please read/listen to “how to raise your self esteem” by Nathaniel Brandon. A small book with some practical tips to work on self esteem. Read it recently and practicing it.. going good so far

I don’t know. I never know why I’m depressed but I don’t feel well at all :(

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Because I live in my head and my head wants something very differently than my reality

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Because an unstoppable Force (my hopes/expectations) met an immovable object (the reality)

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Damn we’d be here all night, but for starters:
- my lack of friends and the fact that I couldn’t make friends in high school, college, or at work
- my gayness
- my ugliness
- my lack of abs/biceps despite continuously striving to be in shape
- I feel like I have absolutely nothing in common with people my age and especially the people at my firm because I don’t drink and don’t enjoy being around drunk people
- the fact that I didn’t graduate summa cum laude
- the fact that I work for a tier 2 firm and people on these apps treat you like you’re an idiot with no future if you don’t work at MBB

I feel like no one thing is causing me to be depressed, because it’s not like any one of those things is that awful, but I feel like I’ve failed as a person across all aspects of life and that I’m not good at anything and have nothing to be proud of.

Family doesn’t speak to me. I have no friends. Loneliest and most depressing time of my life.

Work. I am not excited to wake up everyday and actually feel bitter in the mornings about having to deal with bs problems in order to bill the minimum. This isn’t my passion at all and I have anxiety I’ll be stuck in it for awhile because I can’t afford a pay cut.

Because as a short guy I’ll never be in love with someone I want. I’m going to die alone or settle.

Tbh 5 6 is not short to lose confidence over. Be confident!! Your other characteristics will make up for your height (but again not short..)

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I’m lonely, even though I’m married. My spouse is always busy

My boss curses me out when I mess up instead of explaining what I did wrong. I’m a new campus hire.

Haven’t been able to like myself since I can remember. Ostracized growing up bc poor kid in school/have some physical abnormalities that made me the butt of all the jokes/terrible support system. No sense of belonging to anything bc ive always felt like an outsider. Life has been so shitty for so long that now when good things happen I can’t feel happy bc I get the sense it’s some sort of mistake like it must be meant for someone else and I must have somehow tricked people into thinking I deserve it.

I’m not as good looking as I need to be to accomplish what I want to accomplish. Whether that’s a partner, or the social capital that comes with the territory.

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