The holidays were so stressful trying to see everyone, buy all the gifts we needed, cook/clean/repeat. My husband and I butted heads so many times I almost feel like we would have been better off not celebrating this year, it just made us both exhausted and unhappy. I'm already trying to think about how to avoid this next year. What do you all do to make the holidays enjoyable with your spouse?

I’ve been married for a while now (5+ years) but feeling completely checked out. My wife has zero conflict resolution skills and can’t control her anxiety, so we constantly bicker if I ever do anything that offends her, and she wants to spend all her time talking about the constantly changing projects she will never start. I can’t ever talk about anything that worries me because she just freaks out. We have kids and she has no ability to earn money so leaving would be impossible financially

Has anyone else told their religious parents that they were moving in with an SO before marriage? I did, it didn’t go super well- they disapprove of it (cont)

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

sigh* last week Saturday my s/o & I broke up after our 3 year relationship. & it really been affecting me negatively — not eating, autopilot mode, self isolation & diving deep into work. Today I decided to go outside, where I picked up some food to go and went to an outdoor movie by myself; where I had the realization I just really enjoy being by myself. Idk, maybe I’m just better off single after so many failed relationships/am I being dramatic? but anyone else has given up on love?

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

How do I know if I am ready for a divorce?

I think I want to be in relationship, but I fear that I actually am just lonely and not actually ready for relationship.
I desperatly want someone that I can spend time with, laugh with, and tell good news to amongst so much else.
I don't know what to do or if anything can be done...

Thoughts anyone?

Why doesn't my wife get that it's just me and the great dane now. She making this awkward wanting some room in the bed.

Have an SO I know is cheating. Thing is I cheated once and he doesn't know about it. I feel like I should let this one fling of his go and refocus on our relationship. Thoughts?

Where are you in your own path to parenthood?

I need friends. Feel lonely when everyone else is partying up.

Anybody get divorced as a young-ish associate with little kids? I think I'm on that path and really struggling

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

How much per week/month do you spend on daycare?

I am going through a divorce right now. I currently have a (my) family member stay with me to help take care of my children (until the divorce is finalized). My ex is oppose to my family member staying in the same house and decided to serve a notice to vacancy. However, I live in CA (community property state), and both of our names are on the title. Does my ex have any legal grounds to take such action to evict my visiting family member?

McK 🐠 can you work in PEPI practice in any office? Anyone in PEPI in the Midwest offices willing to chat? I’m currently in a T2 firm PE practice.

Any suggestions for healthy self help books? Or healthy eating or understand why we get cravings? Looking for self help books alone those lines to help get my eating right

Hey fishes I have an experience as product owner / business analyst of 2.8 years. Can i get a job as product manager or is it too soon. Like is there anyone who got simmilar role All your thoughts and feedbacks are appreciated. TIA

Hi Fishes,

My Customer is looking for Sr.Product owners with Digital Product Management experience. Should have 15+ yrs of experience overall. Customer is a Global Retail Leader. Please inbox me for further details. Need to fulfill 7+ positions before this year end hence anyone matching the above requirements please inbox me as this is an urgent requirement from customer.

Is it a red flag to not use your current employer as a reference or would this not be noticed? I have other references I want to use who I think can better attest to my skills for the job but don’t want it to raise any questions.

Can someone elaborate on floating holidays at ZS ?

Which m7s are known for consulting and/or tech as exit opps?

Tips on looking for a remote position in the communications, Public relations, or marketing field? Everything I find seems to be a scam, way underpaid, or a 100% commission based role.

I had cleared all the rounds in S&P and had salary discussion 1.5 month back. The HR is always saying the management is on leave and will soon get the approval and release offer. Today she shas asked for one more week to release the offer. Should I wait for it or move on. Are they waiting for some other candidate to join before rejecting me at last moment. Only 10 days of my LWD are left.

Debating between super high end luxury building in West End and decent managed building (no amenities) in Back Bay. 30 yr old M. Given change in social scene with COVID, where do you recommend?

Hi fishes,
Want some feedback for Employees Assistant Program (EAP) by Capgemini which provides facilities to connect with Therapist.
Actually I am going through some tough times(going through a divorce), want to connect to EAP to discuss my mental health issues.
I had connected once and they say that the conversations are strictly confidential.
Just wanted to know do they really keeps stuff confidential or can they inform my Manager regarding the personal conversations.

EY people- Is there a big difference between Director/ED benefits vs Associate Director?

How does one tell their boss (owner of the company) that you are burnt out? The sheer volume of work is exhausting and I haven’t taken a true vacation as we are a small company so if something urgent comes to my email I feel like I must respond. I was given an additional title and more responsibilities last year as well but only a 3% raise for it.

Can someone help me on what should one ask for B8 position for project management having 8 years of experience .

Anyone from Data and Analytics consulting practice in EY GDS?

Senior directors: What’s your salary, location and YOE?

What is a great white elephant gift? My in laws only played once. My brother in law presented Mein Kampf and it was game over..

Is 20 CTC Fixed good for Senior Consultant in Deloitte India with 6 yrs YOE ? Please elaborate what other benefits can we expect like wfh allowance, phone reimbursement etc