Have an SO I know is cheating. Thing is I cheated once and he doesn't know about it. I feel like I should let this one fling of his go and refocus on our relationship. Thoughts?

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Clearly you've got a healthy relationship. You should stick to each other in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.

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This defines the phrase "toxic relationship"

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Tell him you know, tell him about yours, hate smash it out and keep dating if you're both cool afterwards

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Let me know when you re single

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Sack up and break up u both clearly want other people

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You cheated on me?!

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Asking Fishbowl for relationship advice is your first and biggest msitake

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Agree with GS2, if you can get past it as a couple then keep trying (with strict rules). If anything happens later though it's over. You don't exactly have the moral high ground in any case.

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Any update from the OP?

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If he's actively cheating, that's different from cheated once and decided to refocus on the relationship. Still, sounds like a good candidate for an open relationship if you don't want to break up.

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Sounds like you shouldn't be in an relationship

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what the hell is this? The Oprah show?

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SO?

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Significant other, CS1 not sure if we know whether or not this is a she or he...

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I think you should tell him you caught him, but tell him you did the same thing yourself, then say "OK, we each used up our get one free card. Now, moving forward..." Otherwise, imagine having to spend your life with someone holding a big secret over your shoulders?

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Oh please, at least 1 in 4 married people *admit* to cheating and true rates among dating couples are certainly higher. This doesn't disqualify you from dating or make your life a shit show. It just means it's time to reevaluate things as a couple and either move on or move out.

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What did you decide to do

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Can we let this thread die please so irrelevant

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There's also the GS3 option above... I'm all for that one, too...

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