To those who work insane hours & their partners- My husband works constantly, 18hr days 7 days/wk. It’s for his own business so he’s getting his return but I can tell he’s so exhausted. I work a lot of hours too but not like him. We often miss out on friend time and he can’t escape mentally for anything. How have others been able to navigate this? I want to be supportive but I miss him and worry about him. Do we just keep suffering until early retirement?

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What's the point of working if you can enjoy the fruits of your labor?

Also - tell your husband to read Peak Performance by magnets and stuhlburg.

Basically the book talks about all of these people whose performance went up when they worked less.

I implemented that approach a few years ago and I am much happier and 3x more successful

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Thank you!

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More of a solidarity reply vs anything helpful but sounds like my SO. He works from 8AM to 3AM every day for his own business. We’re fine with it for now because we’re late 20s and DINK however the plan is this is to set us up for success before we have kids and once we have kids we’re dialing it back biggg time. The no mental escape hits home big time - SO can’t go anywhere without their laptop / wifi. The way I deal with it is knowing it’s temporary and the $ is good but I’m sure as I get older that will change too🤷‍♀️

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PS We are DINK and I don’t have any concerns with him helping or doing his part because obviously he’s at max capacity. I just feel bad ☹️ and wonder if the money is worth it.

Not healthy but he may need to do it for the business. Can he hire someone to train and help out? That sounds hard on your relationship. I used to work close to that and wreaked havoc on my sleep and relationship. Good luck.

One persons opinion - there are points in time where you just make a strategic decision, together, to do the grind so you can enjoy the fruits later. If that’s where you are at, do it eyes wide open. It’s for a better tomorrow for you.

If this is it where you are at, and you don’t believe in it, that’s a different story.

All I’m saying is, no matter the profession, to get somewhere usually takes some degree of grind. And there is no harm in that, making the sacrifices to get where you want. But you have to both be in it, and you have to recognize the sacrifice that it is going to take, and then just dive in.

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