Today an assistant from another office came in to pick up paperwork, and she seemed weirdly surprised I was black? She literally stopped in her tracks when she came in the front door and kept mentioning how nice it was to see "different faces" at our branch office. Before she left she said, "I hope you feel like you fit in well here." I can't tell if I'm overreacting or if my intuition is right on this one, and I'm not sure if I should mention it to my boss?

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When did you start working there? Not to play devil's advocate, but if this is the first time you've met maybe she was surprised to see you because she knew who you replaced? I do agree the fitting in comment is weird though

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Your instincts are absolutely right

I’m sorry you had to experience this

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Very uncouth of her but was she friendly or was it negative? Because of these people are just super inexperienced w seeing black faces and want to be allies but don’t know how. No excuses for her conduct.

I beg my melinated pardon?!?!

What in the opening credits of a Jordan Peele movie was the mess that came out of her mouth?!??!

My younger petty behind would have responded with,
"Of course I am comfortable, why would I not be? The office is more moisturized and the food at pot lucks has never tasted better. Ask Betty about my crockpot roast next time you drop in😏"

Time has taught me that a blank stare says plenty + silence can't be misquoted🤷🏾‍♀️



With that being said; I would still personally take note that she
- was surprised by your presence
- raised awarness that you may be uncomfortble or not accepted
as a mental post-it note to pay closer attention to any future escalating micro-aggressions.

A warning is a warning, whether it is quietly whispered or loudly shouted in the town square😒



However, if it has not been a concern thus far, I would keep working and interacting with my colleagues the way I always have.


Maybe her sister-in-law, college soror applied for the role and didn't get it. Not your dog, so no need to scoop that poop (had to be PC).


The exhaustion of having to be hyper-vigilant in workspaces is so exhausting. There is no need to let someone you barely interact with increase your stress.

You are exactly where you need to be in this season of your life.

Keep being amazing and ignore ashy Ashley💜!

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