We were trying to conceive through IVF and at around 7 months they had to do an emergency surgery due to lack of movement but couldn’t save the baby. My wife had been telling the gynecologist for the last 2 weeks that something seems off but she said everything was normal in the last few tests and they don’t do additional tests this late unless necessary. Should we file a complaint? The doctors just said they tried their best and can help get counseling.

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I would consider filing a complaint so it is documented with the provider’s employer but I would advise against going beyond that. From what you’ve described, it sounds like negligence would be a tough case to make. It is a battle you are unlikely to win and it will drain your energy. When our baby was born prematurely at 24 weeks, I was desperate to find a reason or person responsible for his early birth and death. I was also looking for something actionable I could tackle because doing nothing felt like defeat. It is a natural reaction to an unimaginable and overwhelming grief.

Some advice from a fellow loss parents- get counseling. Find someone who specializes in grief and infant or newborn loss if you can. Covid makes this hard, but group therapy is helpful for feeling less alone and isolated. It’s hard and awkward to talk to strangers about it, but if they are other loss parents, you will quickly realize that they understand your situation like no one else can. Channel your energy into grieving and moving through grief together and healing. I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby. DM me if you want an ear.

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I’m so sorry to read this, I can’t even imagine the feeling of what you guys are going though.

Besides the unimaginable situation you guys are living, if I trying to rationalize the situation, I think you are asking the right question, which is whether you SHOULD file a complaint vs CAN file a complaint.
The question what would help you guys to bear with the feeling of this moment and all the lives you could have lived with your kid that you won’t and be able to keep on with your life, including maybe trying to conceive again.

If initiate legal action will help you solidify your couple and keep moving you should do it, if it will stuck you and drain all of your energy, I would avoid it.
At the end of the day, I believe the most important thing is how you learn to live with what happened to you guys vs this becoming all your life.

And again, I’m so so sorry for your loss

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